Monday, May 4, 2015

SLEEP | ARE YOU GETTING ANY?




Having young kids is MUCH easier than having a newborn. Lets just get that out there. The sleep deprivation that comes with being a new mum, particularly for the first time, is almost unbearable. For me it induced a pinch of Post Natal Depression and Anxiety. I mean who really can function with 3 hours of broken sleep night after night, week after week? I know I couldn't.

And when you're doing a job as important as raising a human- all bets are off. There is nothing you want to be better at. I wanted to smash the mothering gig. I wanted to be present, engaged, motivated and look hot when pushing my pram to the park.

Instead I was sleep deprived, depressed, jittery and chubby. A pretty grim reality, don't you think?

I couldn't function. There were days where I would call day in tears just moments after he's walked out the door confessing that I just couldn't cope.

By the time we'd had our 3rd baby, he knew to take my crazy seriously. Things were out of control for me and on occasion packing the lunch boxes would literally tip me right over the edge. It seems ridiculous to confess but there really were days where I just couldn't figure out how to find the jam in the pantry.

These days life is so much easier.

Little Elk is now 2 and sleep is far less elusive than it used be. Having said that, we're often up several times a night (it was six last night, as I mentioned on Facebook earlier today) and most mornings, we awake to find a child between us.

I'm still not getting the amount sleep I need but I AM getting enough sleep to stay sane most of the time.* Okay okay, lets not get too ambitious - SOME of the time.



What about you? Are you getting enough sleep? Do you feel like it effects your mental health? How do you cope?




* PMT time- all bets are OFF! c.r.a.z.y

17 comments:

  1. Love this post!! I'm a new mum and NOT getting enough sleep. I've had perinatal and post natal depression and the lack of sleep compounds the lows for me.. My husband and I share the burden but me more so because he works and I don't.. Thanks for letting me know there is more light at the end of the sleep depreciation tunnel x

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  2. Can absolutely relate to much of this. I have recently been searching for the ham for school lunches, and found it in the pantry. And it actually happened TWICE (with different ham of course). Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, it really is.

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    1. It REALLY is!! No more cold meats, k? Just stick to the jam, yeah?

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  3. I have 3 children under 4.5 and have had times where I don't get enough sleep but my actual job is to help parents teach their kids to sleep & eat well. So my kids do sleep reasonably well but I still go lengths of time where I don't get enough sleep(often due to working at night) and it actually sends me into a spin of anxiety. That is the whole reason I got to the point of teaching my firstborn to sleep and looking at the best ways to do it.

    To cope with sleep deprivation I try to take the days slower, stay in our jammies, and let the TV run freely. I try to drink more water, less coffee and eat well so I feel less slugish. This helps me but as my children get older I find they need more than this to get through the day so sometimes we walk to the local park and I sit there while they run and jump and climb for hours on end.

    Parenting support is one of the most underfunded and resourced area in our health system. CHN advice is all over the place, GP's just give advice based on their own experiences and anyone 'qualified' to teach your kids to sleep follows some level of cry it out. Somehow we have lost the ability to teach and share with others how to meet our children's needs and some of our own as well.

    I wish every mum had enough sleep for them to function and feel okay, some love bed sharing, some love cry it out and some just want to know why their children don't sleep well or all night and how to help them sleep longer lengths of time. Why can these mums not find the support/help they need?

    How about you help me with my clothes shopping habit and I will help you out with sleeping? haha ;)

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  4. My youngest turned 4 on the weekend & if I wasn't so fixed on the fact that he's growing up so fast & those chubby little hands won't want to hold mine for much longer I might have wrung his neck!! He wakes at least once but mostly twice a night, just so I can tuck him back in. No fuss, no drama, just my broken sleep.... It's a form of torture you know.......

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  5. I had seriously mental health issues when my kids were newborns. It was so awful.
    With our second, it was more manageable because we knew what to expect.

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    1. Its one very rough ride, hey. And it just creeps up on you. No one warns you about these things... or at least I didn't listen if they did!

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  6. I have a two year old and an 8 month old, and I seriously think I had anxiety last week from broken sleep/lack of sleep. My 8 month old is refusing solids and choosing to feed constantly throughout the night!

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    1. That is happening here with my 8 month old and Im so over it. Somehow I feel ok, but all these physical ailments like ulcers, aches and gingivitis creep in. All signs of a lack of sleep. This is my 3rd and worst sleeper. I think Im a pro at falling asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow so though Im getting broken sleep, Im still getting sleep. Hope it gets better for you soon. Im ready to go the bottle full time soon.

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  7. No sleep for us. Archie is 2.4 months and still breastfeeds! It's refreshing to see this post. Glad to see our situation is common because in "real" life people seem to have their baby off the breast and sleeping in their own beds and sleeping all night before one years of age. Good for them but I don't want to feel bad about the needs of our second child. In saying that I want to move on to that next stage:)

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em