Thursday, May 8, 2014

Tiny Little Humans, Big Gigantic Change






Photo 's of baby Zeph and a blond haired me pinned to the fridge next to magnetic photo's of Elke. Pip features just out of frame


For tiny little humans, babies sure do provoke mammoth amounts of change.

Everything we once knew, we know no more. A full nights sleep, uninterrupted meals and intelligent conversations all fade away into a beautiful but distant memory.

Etched deeply into every one of my senses is the day we bought our children, one by one, home from hospital. I remember gingerly (c-sections aint easy on the body) walking out the large, automated glass sliding doors into the bright light of day. So vividly I recall taking a deep breath of sweet hospital car park fresh air and mentally preparing myself for what was to come.

When we bought our third little darling home I was immediately slapped in the face with the glorious chaos that is Real Life.

There were tears and tantrums, an empty pantry, wet pants and dirty floors, unmade beds, three beautiful children and a whole lot of change right there in those first five minutes.

As change is often the catalyst for further change, I reckon it's best to just surrender to it. If there's one thing that parenting has taught me, it's to 'roll with it'. Adaptability, flexibility and durability have never been so important, neither have control panelled undergarments, but that's another issue.


Twelve months and seven days ago, we bought home our third baby to The Beetle Shack. For me the addition of the third child has really changed the pace in our home. I'm sprinting all day, every day - i'm puffed by lunch and fatigued by 2pm. By 7 in the evening my rounded rump is on the couch with a glass of wine and a bag of *forgotten* easter eggs.

Life is exhausting but I've surrendered to it good and proper. I'm not evening going to do the dishes tonight and when I get into bed, I'm totally going to throw my clothes on the floor next to the dirty basked. When I get up, I'm going to put them back on. Fresh undies though, promise.


I'd love to know how you've adapted to the change that is parenting.


23 comments:

  1. Huge changes! I am way less uptight than I was pre-kids. I love so much more, I love deeper than I've ever known. I'm gobsmacked that flawed, impatient me has helped create the most amazing humans I know. Lovely post xx

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    1. It's amazing how the love just grows and grows, huh!

      x

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  2. Truth is.. I'm not sure I've adapted. I'm adapting everyday. It's still a huge process for me, having only had my first child almost one year ago. Sometimes I feel selfish when I get upset that I want some me time and it's all I want and why can't Mason just give me 10 minutes without whinging.. Sometimes I realise that those feelings are valid. I had PND briefly and I don't know.. When your family lives thousands of miles away, do you ever get over that? I want my mother here so badly because she is MINE. I get to be what Mason is with me. Raw, unafraid to whinge and to bear my truest self.

    So yeah. I'm adapting. I love love love the kid, but it's going to be a while for me, I think.

    *Does that make me horrible?!*

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    1. I feel like is a never ending process of personal evolution. I expect we will never 'arrive'!

      xx

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  3. Hi Emily,
    Long time reader and LOVE your blog. Just wondering where you got your magnet frames, the little square ones?
    Many thanks,
    Bridget

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  4. Thanks for your honesty Em. The funny thing is, I look at the photos with you modeling clothes from your shop, in what I think is your bedroom, and I have noticed how tidy and beautiful it looks. I then presumed that your whole house is like that and you are so organised.

    Since becoming a mum, 16 years ago, I have gradually let go of my perfectionist tendencies. So much so that our home currently looks like a bomb hit it. My boys are now 13 and 16, but they are homeschooled. My hubby has also just started working from home. That means the four of us are in our home a lot and that equals a lot of mess. My 'problem' is that I'd rather do things with my boys than clean the house and I'm also back into the veggie garden. The house can wait, but my boys are growing up and I don't want to miss a thing. Now, I just need to get over my embarrassment if someone visits us unexpectantly.

    Thanks again for an honest post. xxoo

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    1. My house is a bomb site. Totally. Consistently.

      I'll tell you the trick…

      never have house guests. ever.

      ;)

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  5. Not a grammar nazi {honest!} but you might want to change empty panty to empty pantry. Awks. I hope your panties are usually empty....

    I HEAR you! Man oh man I'm sitting waiting for call the midwife to come on iview and feeling that 9 30 is altogether to late to be awake. I'd love to hear some more reflections on c number three one day. I can't even think about going under the knife again without getting very queasy.

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    1. hehe...I thought the same thing (about the empty panties). Looks like something I would write after a very long day!

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    2. shah thanks Rin, I fixed that up!

      C number 3… mmmm yes, I'll have to get to that! Are you going to go there run? xx

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    3. ;)

      Doctor said not to try till N is two. I always wanted loads of kids but man I hate having operations. Just waiting and seeing i think.
      xx

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  6. I think it's a constantly-evolving process. My older child is nearly nine years old and I'm still working on it. I've learned to take each day as it comes. Some days are amazing and some are terrible, but it's all part of the process.

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  7. It is huge and just keeps getting bigger and bigger!

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  8. Such an apt post for me right now, as it's in the forefront of my mind these days just how much our world is about to change. Change for the better, sure, but change, be turned upside down and spun around. I've been thinking a lot lately about that very moment you spoke about - walking out into the big wide world, now a mother, with this little tiny thing who apparently depends wholly on you. Goodness...

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  9. Having just welcomed our 4th baby 12 months after welcoming our 3rd change is here again. I welcome it with open arms, all it's chaos, all the worry, all love, all the juggling. There is no other way to face it :)

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  10. Just rolling with it is the best advice! ANd thank you for reminding me I have easter eggs stashed in the cupboard, I had completely forgotten.

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  11. I'm awaiting the change that will be two under two when our second arrives in October.

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  12. Stay strong, and only clean when you feel like it :-)

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  13. Hi Em, not sure if you got my message the other day... but I finally saw your comment on my (very neglected) blog! Sorry it took me so long to reply... feel free to get in touch any time: mail (at) designandopinion (dot) com

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  14. شركة نقل عفش بالرياض وجدة والدمام والخبر والجبيل اولقطيف والاحساء والرياض وجدة ومكة المدينة المنورة والخرج والطائف وخميس مشيط وبجدة افضل شركة نقل عفش بجدة نعرضها مجموعة الفا لنقل العفش بمكة والخرج والقصيم والطائف وتبوك وخميس مشيط ونجران وجيزان وبريدة والمدينة المنورة وينبع افضل شركات نقل الاثاث بالجبيل والطائف وخميس مشيط وبريدة وعنيزو وابها ونجران المدينة وينبع تبوك والقصيم الخرج حفر الباطن والظهران
    شركة نقل عفش بجدة
    شركة نقل عفش بالمدينة المنورة
    شركة نقل اثاث بالرياض
    شركة نقل عفش بالدمام
    شركة نقل عفش بالطائف

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em