Tuesday, March 4, 2014

The Silver Lining



Introducing a 3rd child into our family has been pretty full on, I'm not going to lie. There have been sleepless nights, tears, tantrums, anxiety and more. Dave and I have argued more than ever before and the fog that is overwhelming exhaustion has been thick and heavy.

I'm going to write a complete post on what life's been like with three kids (i've had a few emails from some of you) but for now, I'll just show you the above.

The silver lining.

While Zeph was feeding Elke her dinner, I was busy painting my nails*.

Tell me, whats the silver lining in your kid-packed home? It's okay if you say 'bed time'!


*Okay, okay so I was busy emptying the dishwasher, but the point is, Zeph was feeding the baby.

23 comments:

  1. Love your honesty that's why I had two xx

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  2. Look at how he stands feeding Elke, it's just like the photos I've seen you post of Dave. Adorable.

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  3. That is gorgeous. When my third baby was born my eldest was only 3 - she did often try to feed the baby and it was adorable but often it was so messy that it was more trouble than anything else!

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  4. You've captured a beautiful moment, I love it. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane, Australia

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  5. I love how my eldest boy adores his baby brother, showering him with kisses and love. He wasn't too happy about his sister arriving 2.5 years ago and changing his world but this time round he is loving the role. He is more compassionate, empathetic and mature as a result, an added outcome I didn't really predict. It is still very early days though, bub is only one month tomorrow!

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  6. There's nothing more heartening seeing a rough and tumble boy be so tender and kind to a younger sibling. That's my silver lining and it looks similar to yours. Another silver lining is learning to let go that little bit more as you get older and wiser with each child (or should I say worn down!!!)

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  7. My four are now aged between 9 and 14, a world away from when they were between 1 and 6. I guess the silver lining is now at this age. For the most part they are wonderful team players in this team that is our family. I know it's such little consolation, but it will get easier. I still remember the first grocery shop when I didn't have to enter the nappy aisle, that was me behind the trolley kicking my heels together, what a day!

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  8. My silver lining is the 10 year old helping the five year old with her take home readers! Those babies are painful when you've already been through them twice before with your own kids and about 1000 other times when teaching in primary school yourself!!!!

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  9. Two is company and three is a crowd. I sympathise. x

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  10. I think the silver lining only starts to emerge when the youngest reaches 1. We're in the thick of that first year and man, it's a slog. Ask me this question again in 4 months time.

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  11. My 5 year old feeds my baby too sometimes - it's awesome! He also dresses my 3 year old and has even read my 3 year old a story and put him in bed for a nap a few times when I was stuck feeding the baby!!! Seriously, he's the best little assistant ever! I could also write an essay on all of the OMFG moments of life with 3 kids under 5! It's VERY full on. They're all currently asleep, so until the mad rush in the morning, I shall be focussing on all of the best bits ;-) I've very much enjoyed your posts, photos and Facebook comments telling tales of life with 3 kids similar ages to mine - together we can do this! Or at least laugh (and cry!) together while we botch it up!xoxoxooxxo

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  12. My 11 yo is listening to the 5yo read his readers every morning.
    Bless her
    x

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  13. My 3 are 14,11 & 10.5 months old ( the 4th is due in 11 weeks!). With such ahuge age gap there are many silver linings ( lots of not so silver ones) but one of the best is tht the 11 year old will bath the baby. It gives me time to clean up dinner ( husband is 4:1 FIFO) & breath for 5 minutes.

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  14. Hm, the silver lining... I guess free kisses and seeing my son run to me with excitement when I pick him up after work from daycare. :)

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  15. My silver lining is that my children are BEAUTIFUL! And while I want to scream and shout alongside them when all they seem to do is fight, it's not always like that. I find so much contentment in the stage we're in - I relish the relative freedom of the pre-school years before we're all defined by the school day schedule. 4.5 more years and all four will be at school and then what will I do with myself??!!

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  16. I have 2 boys (almost 4 and 1.5), and the silver lining for my husband and I has been seeing them play with each other more and more recently (and, of course, bedtime)! The first year of my second son's life was the hardest of mine – just like you said, so little sleep, so much snapping at each other. We both emerged from that year quite shaken and it's pretty much put the kybosch on adding a third to the troop. I'll be very interested to read whatever you have to say about having that third child – I still have a tiny inkling that it could be a good idea ;-)

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  17. I have a 2.5 yr old and a 16mnths old with one due in August. Im half way through this pregnancy and getting buggered at the moment so my silver lining is the 1-2 hr sleep they both have together. What I like to call the midday special.

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  18. I had four children in 5 and a half years and they are now aged 8, 7, nearly 5 and nearly 3. The silver lining is when my eldest said, "It's hard work having six people but we're so lucky because we've got so many people to love."
    It took me all of about 5 seconds to email an etsy seller the quote and have it turned into a gorgeous poster which now adorns our walls.

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  19. My silver lining of having children 19 years apart. when Tamika comes over for dinner several nights a week, she will entertain Jarvis while I cook dinner/do a load of washing/basically do what ever needs to be done.

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  20. thank you for always being so honest and candid! as a fellow mom of three, i attest: it is so hard. i don't get enough "silver lining" moments, but i trust they're coming in the near future :)

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  21. When my two play together - seeing them enjoy eachothers company.....rare but heartwarming at the same time :)

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  22. We have four, aged between 5 mths and 6 years. It's bloody hard slog a lot of the time. But sometimes you just have those moments... like when they hold hands voluntarily, or when they learn how to give 'proper' kisses... you gotta hold onto your silver linings! x

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em