Thursday, March 20, 2014

Just Call Me Tom






After a mighty good tantrum, she agreed to wear the above outfit. I made the most of it and took a photo.

Okay, so I've got this daughter. She's three, has a killer front fringe and is a die hard tom boy.

She won't wear girls clothing, won't let me brush her hair and insists on being called 'Tom'. For real.

 TOM?!

If I refer to her by her given name she promptly and sternly reminds me that she's 'Tom' and I am to address her as such. In an attempt to feminise her new found identity I've been calling her Tom-Pudding, Tom-Pie, Tommy-Cake and so on.

She's not into it.

'I'm Tom Mum, just Tom'.


21 comments:

  1. Tomisina? Perhaps she's channelling Shiloh Brangelina ??

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  2. My Great Aunt has always been known as Tommy since she was a tom-boy. She is now a grand old lady in her 90s. She is so much just 'Tommy' I actually can't be sure of her real name. …. oops.

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  3. Tom or not, she is super cute. x

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  4. This post made me laugh so hard! Just roll with Tom i say:)

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  5. But she looks so cute in that dress rocking that fringe! We have one of those tomboy girls. She still is at 24. I don't think you can shake it. And you might as well call her Tom until she tires of it. Nothing like going with the flow. It really kicks the spirit out of 'em (in a good way, right?) xx

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  6. If it makes you feel any better, I desperately wanted a "Tom", because my brother is "Tom" and my hubby's brother is "Tom" and they are both superb creatures x

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  7. I was a "Tom" as a child. I would come home from school and tuck my skirt under a boiler suit, put my Wellington boots on and hide all of my hair under a flat hat and rush out to the farm to be with the boys (My Uncles & Cousins). I would help milk the cows and feed the calves and more than anything I wanted to fit in by being a boy! I think over time I understood actually its kinda cool to be a girl but obviously one who still likes Wellington boots, flat hats and milking cows! Perhaps it could explain how I ended up as a lady butcher as an adult- once a Tom boy, always a Tom boy but one with hot pink painted nails of course.

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  8. My daughter was just like that Em,she wore soccer jerseys only no dresses under any bribery and did not let me do her hair,a rebel daughter who wanted to be the same as her older brother she even wanted an undercut god forbid i put my foot down on that one! Now i have a beautiful feminine daughter she still plays soccer and likes shorts but wears dresses and even steals some of mine!So don't worry her Tom days will end one day Xx

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  9. Love it! Wonder if Elke will be a girly girl?

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  10. I have an 8 year old who was once covered in swishes and big dresses, now there is no hope of her ever being seen in "girly girl" clothes as she calls them, but at the same time, if something looks like 'boys' clothes (you know, like jeans!) then she ain't wearing them either. Picture a modern Punky Brewster and I think I have a her 'style".

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  11. Honey I have me a Shiloh too.. she likes having her hair up and tucked in to a cap so she looks like a boy.. I just go with it. I figure if she is happy so am I x

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  12. This is seriously hilarious. Love this picture!

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  13. My wifi connection here is soooo iffy! I did peruse your many recent posts and LOVED "Tommy" , the wee one asleep in the white linens, the knit shawl in the tree and the chain saw massacre. Great photos as usual!

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  14. For the last two years we've had a girl at preschool who was 'Tom'! On her arrival, we'd get a kiss and cuddle and 'I'm Tom today' Although in her second year with us, she was Tom only about half the time. Funnily enough even the other kids at preschool would happily call her Tom.
    But I agree....your little 'Tom' is super cute!

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  15. I would rather a child who wants to be known as Tom, who is sure of herself and strong willed, than a child who would follow meekly. You have an amazingly clever girl who knows what she wants.

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  16. she is just so dang cute! she'll fall in love with hair clips, lip gloss and shiny shoes soon…just wait!

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  17. Tom's a great name!! (my opinion has nothing to do with the fact my kids name is Thomas/Tom)
    It's Lindsay by the way- not rollsy, as the post ID suggests.

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  18. Good for her I say. At least she is firm in her convictions!

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em