Monday, October 7, 2013

exhausted, worn out




Look, I'm just going to come out and say it.

I'm over it.

I'm over the mess, the noise, the wet beds (theirs not mine), the sleepless nights, the crying, the fluff balls down the hall and the mess - oh have I said that already? I'm SO over the mess.

I'm over the week days, the weekends and especially the long weekends. I'm over the washing and the cooking.

I'm over the bickering, the whinging the negotiation, the mediation. I'm over the wee that always seems to be on the bathroom floor.

I'm over the sunshine, the rain, the heat the cool thewindtheoceanthetreestheskies.

Bloody hell, what a debacle.


There's one thing I'm not over, though. I'm not over Dave. I want to pack that kid up in the car with his surfboard and sunscreen (he's ever so sensible, none of this thanks) and run away. Just he and I for a couple of days. No responsibility, no deliciously cute children. No early mornings - only late nights, cold beer and fresh prawns.

But do you know what, it's just not going to happen. So i'll write my little ranty blog post, throw a silent little tantrum and get the hell over it.






Okay. Done.



Okay not done. Can you believe it was around this time last year that we made THIS announcement? #caseinpoint

57 comments:

  1. I am with you there.
    I understand totally and completely

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    1. ahah oh the days are long but the years are short, right? or maybe they are both long! shah

      xo me

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  2. I have days (weeks) like this...especially school holidays! Hope you can sneak in an hour or so of quiet tomorrow xx

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  3. Yep, I get it. You're not alone in your daydreams of packing up hubby for late nights, beer and prawns. I'd like to add long sleep ins and extra cuddles to that dream! X

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    1. how good would it be just to be young again for one more evening! Oh and YES to sleeping in!

      xo

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  4. I hear you...I would love some time as a couple again...and we only have one rug rat!
    Although sadly, I think I have lost my ability to sleep in...I can still nap like a champ though...a belly full of lunchtime prawns and beer and a snooze in the sun sounds like heaven!

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    1. Yeah, i've kind of lost the skill too.... oh wait, i'm lying - i totally haven't!!

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  5. Don't do that. That's what probably got you into this mess in the first place :p

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    1. ahahah yep, you're so right. Better NOT let that happen again, like ever.

      been thinking of you lately m'lady! Will make ice cream cups in your honour next week :)

      xx

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    2. Good thoughts I hope :p
      I raise a Dixie cup to you, cheers!

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  6. I'm reading this while trying to put my screaming toddler to bed and wondering how the hell I'm going to handle it all in a couple of weeks when baby number 2 arrives. So don't worry - you're just saying what a lot of us are feeling!

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    1. ooohhhh nooooooo!!! Baby number two.... crazy days. Trust me, you'll surprise yourself with how ell you cope! Don't forget those powerful post birth hormones you get for 3 months afterwards!

      Hope it goes smoothly for you and that you have lots of help :)

      xo em

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  7. I'm 100% with you. Totally over it all! Ahh to be young and FREE for a day (or maybe three) but alas, I'm finding myself pulling strength from the gorgeous moments such as three extra kisses good night, being told I'm "the bestest Mum ever" and a date night coming up, (even if it will be followed by another sleepless night with my twins!)

    Good luck. xx

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  8. oh em - you chose the perfect day to write this one! if I wasn't so busy crying into my pillow after they finally broke me, I'd have written it myself. *chink* (that was our imaginary beers cheersing) xx

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  9. It's sooo reassuring to know other mums go through this! Thank you for showing us behind the facade that I seem to encounter all too often. It's honesty like this that is good for the sisterhood. Mums let's whinge and unite! And then go and kiss our little ones because despite all our moaning we love them to pieces!!

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    1. yes! Lets all get it out in the open and get on with it! :)

      xo em

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  10. Sounds like you needed to come on my netty trip to Echuca on the weekend!! ha ha. I hear ya on the mumma front. Never bloody ending sometimes!! In the mean time if you can get in that hot bath and have a nice quiet red. As my old man always says...The sun will always come up tomorrow. Hope the hubby ok too! xx

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  11. Oh totally hearing you Em! It's the same sh!t every flippin' day! And if I hear one more time about how 'easy' we have it these days in comparison to the 'good old days', I will seriously stab myself in the eye with a fork.

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  12. ha, i think you wrote what most of us feel from time to time. the crazy mess, the fights, the no reason screams. tomorrow you'll be smiling at their cuteness..well, until the next time x

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  13. You are inside my head! Read this sitting here with tears drying on my cheeks and a babe that wont go down on my lap. There seems no light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes it's hard to 'get over it'. Love is such a powerful thing - when they finally close their eyes and peace descends it all comes flooding back. I'd be happy with a shower before midnight and someone cooking me dinner.

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  14. Oh how I love you and your honesty x

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  15. yesss! that's exactly what i want too!!! and it's comforting hearing these words from another mom!

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  16. I can imagine how you feel! kids can be a handful sometimes,,,thank goodness they are cute

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  17. oh how i love your honesty. makes me feel less alone. so many days i feel this way (hell, if i'm honest i feel this way weeks at a time.) it's not fun, and i hate myself for feeling that way, but what can you do? i've noticed it's been worse since finding out we're expecting number 3. (we have a 4yo and 1yo.) it's easy to feel overwhelmed. very overwhelmed. sending you hugs, pretty lady. Xx

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  18. So get you. You are soooooooooooooooooo not alone. But you know that xxxx

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  19. oh yah! clever parents here decided to paint the house and build a fence with bub and toddler for holiday fun. i get why they dont have kids on the blog. hair pulling fun. the mess, oh lordy, my cup runneth over! xx

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  20. Respect. Rant away! Sleepless nights amplify all the problems. I have a 3 y.o. and a 1 y.o. and every night is a disturbed one. My 1 year old is also dropping down to one (very short nap) per day. I'm forever stepping on toys. There's dust and food all over the floor. I'm going through a meal planning slump (as in, I want someone else to do it). I'm feeling slightly loopy! I think it's the time of year, too (not sure why). May the force be with you ;-)

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  21. Yepo ! Wee poo snot food crusty stuff everywhere... Life with kids ain't it sweet!
    About to have someone come over for coffee....and seriously our house looks like Syria with some biological warfare occurring .... Just want to cry.

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  22. Yup, I know! I would love to take a last minute getaway, and leave our responsibilities behind!

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  23. I was pleased to see today come around..that's for sure!! Here's to squeezing in some 'ME' time now that schools back, between sleeping babes and housework. :-/

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  24. “Mothers are all slightly insane.”
    ― J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
    .....♥♥♥

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  25. “Mothers are all slightly insane.”
    ― J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
    .....♥♥♥

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  26. Oh Em....l think l love you.
    Such Australian honesty and humour...love it. :)

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  27. Love your Honesty we all get over it ,sometimes I just want to run away by MYSELF and my kids are adults,I remember when they were young and I think it was easier,I think?,"Hugs" to you Emily xx Lisa Mckenzie

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  28. Oh, I locve this post. So honest and so reflective of how so many of us feel. Trying to be grateful for all that we have but still so damn over it all. I GET IT!

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  29. As Meat Loaf would say "You took the words right out of my mouth" !!

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  30. sigh. raises hand. me too

    but the more sleep deprived I (we) are, the messier the house, the more crazy the children. the more we (hubby & I) fight and bicker. nasty circle.

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  31. I am sitting here sympathising and loving your honesty, feeling overwhelmed by the constant battle with clean and dirty clothes, dishes, clutter and then the cat drops a poo that has stuck to his bum on the carpet not 2m away! Add the poo to the spilt bowl of cereal and dog poo on shoe I cleaned up yesterday and I am certain one of my kids is going to projectile vomit around the whole house. But things come in 3s so maybe that is all, for now! So I will take a big breath, get ready for work and walk out the door, hoping I will feel stronger when I walk back in this afternoon.

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  32. I hear you! As much as I love the go slow of school holidays, I've been very happy to send those 3 boys back to school this term! There's no chance of us getting away for a night or two anytime soon either, and I'd love so much to be able to enjoy a few days outside in warm sunshine without wind, just a few..it's not much to ask!

    hang in there..x

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  33. If Rodge and I got away for the weekend, we'd probably spend half the time discussing the kids!

    But one can still dream ... slow afternoons in the sunshine, lounging on the grass, just drinking and chatting and eating and drinking some more! (No chasing, berating, tidying, feeding, bathing, worrying, crying or screaming).

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  34. The last 18 months (since number 3 arrived) have been soooo hard! Totally with you on this one - it is a seriously tough gig! xK

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  35. Been reading through your posts, really enjoying your blog. Am totally there with you, so over tidying the lounge and kitchen EVERY. DAY. So tired of putting the kids clothes in their drawers to have them pull EVERYTHING out the next morning when getting dressed. Yes I am there.

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  36. I think you speak for the masses - surfing, beer, prawns and beach oh my gosh I want to come too.

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  37. Totally the week for it really! I will be escaping though if only for an hour or two for dinner with hubby! Hoping by the time I get back a fairy godmother cleaner has been as well as a behavior and manners fairy......if not, that I would have gained better patience! X

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  38. I have a baby who is nine weeks old and the best thing I've done is hire a cleaner for two hours a week. BLISS!

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  39. Loving the dustballs down the hallway comment. It is in my top 5 things that can tip me over the edge on any given day. Where do they come from every single day?!

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  40. That all sounds so familiar and hopefully we'll all be able to look back on these tough times one day and laugh. I was wondering whether Elke may also have reflux and if you have tried Losec? I think it saved my sanity once my little one started on it. He didn't vomit but would wake screaming after 20 mins and was virtually impossible to settle. Your situation reminds me of that. He was on it from about 10 weeks until he was 2! Louise

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  41. Are you reading my mind Em? My little 'genetic marve'l has been waking between 04.30- 05.00 - like your kids full of energy and ready to start the say. If only I felt the same way. Being a toddler, it would seem, is pretty complicated. Did I mention I work night shifts too? I feel like I maybe on the verge of cracking it!!! But like you say, what would be the point. Instead, I clean obsessively and bake to make myself feel better. Ahhhhh... the joys of motherhood. Lucky we have our friends in blogland to sympathise with us...... And lucky are children are just beautiful. I had to be very mindful of this, this morning at 5. Have a good day!!! Kate x

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  42. Man, I reckon every mother feels like this - and if they pretend it doesn't happen to them, they're totally lying.

    My two are four and five, and this is what works for us:
    1. I've been having full nights sleep for a couple of years, but I'm STILL tired down to my bones and beyond all the bloody time. I think part of this has to do with constant talking/negotiating/directing/mediating, and never-ending answering of questions. When I'm having one of those days, where everyone is fighting and irritating and I think I'll go mad if I don't get away from every person in the whole wide world, I pack them into the car with snacks, crank my favourite music, and sing at the top of my lungs while going on a good, long drive. Doesn't actually change the situation, but makes me feel like things are going to be ok. Oh, and I eat a lot of cake.
    2. My house will always be messy, until my kids are old enough to do worthwhile chores. And even then, it'll still be messy. I may never get back to the standard of cleanliness I had pre-children, and while this is slightly gross, it only really has an impact when someone is coming over to my house (and then I clean like a banshee possessed). We have some heavy-duty monetary incentives here - I felt bad for half a day, until the kids cleaned up the living room, put away their outside toys, and cleaned up their room (spotless!) within a couple of days, for a $5 note. It doesn't happen every week, but when I'm feeling stressed, or have lots on at uni, or am just over all the bloody mess, having a super incentive takes the pressure off me a bit.
    3. Time out makes better parents. Get out. Do something fun x
    4. That stupid, annoying phrase - this too shall pass? True. It won't always be so sucky. I remember often crying my eyes out in the kitchen to Dave, as soon as he lobbed home from work, lamenting at the wretchedness of the day, feeling like it would never end, feeling so overwhelmed that it was hard to see beyond. For many, it's HARD going when their kids are small. But, it changes - new phases take the place of old, kids grow, and so do you. It'll be ok.

    x

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em