Tuesday, September 17, 2013

She Left Me With A Single Word...






 one deliciously adorable mess maker complete with rashie (girlfriend insists on wearing swimmers) and two year old 'tude.

I shared this photo over on instagram today. It's not an unusual sight in our home and i'm sure I've shared a very similar picture (or post) on more than one occasion before (they may or may not have included a half empty bottle of wine in the foreground).

I'm not going to lie, I find mess stressful. When the house is deeply filthy, It's difficult for me to function and even more difficult to be a happy, present and engaged parent. It makes me crabby and distant and, well, foggy in the head, you know, like a shouty housewife on a Sunday morning.

Yet as the image gathered comments on Facebook, there was one that made me stop, exhale and smile. The beautiful Michelle from Hugo & Elsa left me with a single word.

NORMAL.

Bam. Just like that my stress melted away. There is great comfort in knowing we are not alone as mothers. Even though we function in our own homes with our own washing and cooking and cleaning and children, we aren't alone in our predicament.

Every mother that has every walked this western world must have felt those pangs of anxiety as she scanned her filthy home. I know my mother did, my grandmother did, I do and so do my friends.

So, sisters, lets revel in normal and tomorrow, lets leave the crumbs underfoot in favour of stories and towers and play dough*.

Dare you.



* OR (double dare) a silent cup of tea. BAM.

27 comments:

  1. I have been feeling down on myself this last week for the upside down mess of my house - it seriously has made me so depressed - even to the extent of flying completely off the wall and wanting to hit my husband! Ahhh - it is indeed reality though isn't it! xx

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    1. ooh yes, the rage! It is deep within! I've been loving having a turn with the punching bag at my PT sessions- naturally I visualise the faces of my family members ;) hahah

      xx

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  2. I like NORMAL and sometimes as a parent and a single parent I struggle to find normal! Normal I have been learning recently means that suddenly the vacuuming and mopping dont seem as important because my almost five year old says "Mummy can we go to the beach today, we have never been to the beach together!"

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  3. i have a post in my draft (just waiting on one true media getting their act together with their broken sign in system!) that going to make you feel so much better then!! love you xxx (oh and by the way you are anything but normal...dont get stressed...in a good way!!!) xxxx

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  4. I can do the whole deal Em except for those teeny tiny crumbs on the floor. I caaaaaaaaaant stand the feeling of it walking barefoot on my lino. I promise though I will just do a half hearted sweep ok!! No vacuuming at #3 tomorrow!! ha ha

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  5. Uhuh! The only thing asside from a load of washing that is on my MUST DO list tomorrow is make birthday cupcakes for mr. Almost 6 to share with his classmates. Mr. Almost 4 loves cooking with Mummy, so I guess we'll have a go at that while not-quite-a-baby-anymore has a sleep. Thanks for the reality check Em!
    Sheree x0x

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  6. Yup, saw that word posted earlier today and though, yes. Plain and simple. Normal.

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  7. Dishes. Normal. Crumbs on the floor. Normal. Clean laundry all piled up in the spare bedroom. all these normal in my household. :) Thank you sharing this post.

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  8. so true! mess make me stress as well...can't help it

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  9. Right now our house is in a constant state of Normal. What with freelancing full time for the next few months and still looking after J full time too, there's no time to tidy. And if I do have a spare minute, you better believe I'm sitting down eating a bar of chocolate and watching the TV. Sod the mess, I say! xx

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  10. i see nothing but perfection in that photo.... i hear you. i need our home to be organized and clean in order for me to have peace of mind. otherwise, chaos. i just vacuumed before and while i was doing it, in my head i was cursing off everyone. the dog, the husband and his muddy shoes, the kid.... never ends. but i guess it's normal.

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    1. you've gotta follow the link, lady! there is filth within.

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  11. I saw that photo. And I thought - yep. Situation standard. Our house is certainly like that - and there's no kids! I dread to think what will happen once there's little bodies messing it up. I always feel like a failure though - my mum's house has never been in a messy state. Ever. Not even with me around. And to top it off - she's always cleaned everything up before having fun. I have hang ups galore about it ... in fact it's one of the only things Mr B and I argue about. But I agree with you Em - it's normal, and we shouldn't feel alone in the less than magazine readiness that is daily dirt and grime.

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  12. That photo made me feel so much more normal yesterday too. We are in the midst of moving house (for a second time in 7 months!) and the normal mess that is life at home with a 3 year old is in overdrive. Thank you for sharing 'normal', it does help.
    x Laura

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  13. I saw your photo yesterday just as I was getting into a big huff about how messy my kitchen was, and at the moment, I stopped, took a deep breath and laughed.... because I am sure there were a million other Mumma's looking at their messy kitchens too x

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  14. It does stress me out! I feel completely out of control, anxious and shouty when the house is a mess. But I am trying to be less fussed by it..especially during school holidays. x

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  15. mess stresses me out too -- and with a little one who has just turned two and a nine week old, i feel like the house is the only thing i can semi-control...so when it's a mess i feel like a mess too.

    i always make sure that the bed is made in the morning and my room is neat and tidy -- i need to have at least one room in the house that is peaceful and in order.

    thanks for this post... :)

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  16. So relieved to hear you and read all your lovely comments. I guess it doesn't help when I scroll through my instagram feed and see all these perfect home images. Let's embrace the 'lived in look'. Yay for normal! Happy days everyone xx

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  17. My house is past the point of 'normal', it is downright dirty & messy. It is too small for our family & has no storage. I can't clean because my almost 1 year old screams bloody murder if i dare to put her down. I work 3 days a week & i just can't get it looking even remotely respectable. We have a first birthday celebration fast approaching & i'm too embarrassed to let anyone see our home & am tempted to cancel it.

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  18. My house is past the point of 'normal', it is downright dirty & messy. It is too small for our family & has no storage. I can't clean because my almost 1 year old screams bloody murder if i dare to put her down. I work 3 days a week & i just can't get it looking even remotely respectable. We have a first birthday celebration fast approaching & i'm too embarrassed to let anyone see our home & am tempted to cancel it.

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  19. Where exactly is this mess you speak of??? I see a shiny kid and some colourful cushions and a rather lovely photo. Nothing even remotely messy like the crap that's all over my lounge room right now... x

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  20. Lovely...

    We have been in the process of selling our house. So... every other day we are getting the house 'Pinterest Ready' (as I tell my kids) and they straighten quilts and fluff up toys. They are over it and long for 'normal' where they can have a bit of lived in mess around them...

    From this whole process I have learnt that my dream is to have a 'Pinterest Ready' house, but... that is not the dream of my children. They want to dream and play and explore... I tell them they can do that again soon. The Christmas holidays are going to be sublime! (and somewhat messy I suspect.)

    Enjoy your normal day lovely!

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  21. We recently paid a professional window cleaner to do our house , screens and everything, it was $120. Best money ever spent! It has made me feel like the whole house is 100% cleaner !!!

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  22. I can't keep on top of my laundry / housework and I have a 90 m2 apartment, one kid, and a helper. So. Yeah. Totally NORMAL. (Thanks for being real though. It's great to see in this Pinterest perfect world.)

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em