Thursday, September 5, 2013

CHALK, CHEESE AND HOPES FOR THE FUTURE



Dave and I have been talking a lot about dreams lately, you know hopes for the future and all that. Do we have them, what are they, how do we action them?

Dave is a dreamer. He is a man who knows what he wants from this earthy life and strongly walks towards his goals. He is not content to be stagnant and is unlikely to settle for anything other than his best. He knows what he believes and can identify what constitutes a 'good' person with ease as he strives to be one. Dave see's God's earth for the glorious creation that it is and attempts to live within it making as little detrimental impact as possible.


I'm a realist. A believer in mediocrity and contentment. I'm happy to plod along without much vision for the future. Right now, in this stage of my life, I care little for big dreams and seldom bother to have them. My vision of happiness is what's in front of me and rarely do I look beyond that. I'm happy to make the rules up as I go and if someone else dare to set them for me, I prefer to break them. I'm bored by greatness and captivated by the flawed.

We are chalk and cheese, Dave and I.

An optimist and a realist under one roof. An extrovert and an introvert. A dreamer and a realist.

But from time to time his vision and my reality meet perfectly in the middle. It's happened before and it will happen again.

One day we really will do something. We might get in the car and travel around Australia, we might move to the country and live on a farm, we might raise some cows for meat or home school our kids.

For now though, Dave will take care of the dreaming and I'll roll my eyes as every 'far fetched' ideal rolls from his mouth.



Tell me, is their a dreamer in your duo? Is it you, or do you find yourself  too bogged down by the washing and the dishes to dream big?

28 comments:

  1. I am the dreamer. Always. I just don't always have the courage to take everyone with me now that it isn't just me.

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    1. there are some BIG leaps for the dreamers, huh!

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  2. I was once the realist and hubby the dreamer but in the last year or two the roles have completely changed!!

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    1. Yes! I used to be the dreamer too! Isn't it funny how the roles change but there is always someone being 'sensible'!?

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  3. Love that photo! Hubby is the forward thinker in our family. He's always planning ahead. I am the one rooted in the moment, taking one day after another, enjoying what is in front of me. With me, it's "out of sight, out of mind", as I move from one venue to the next, one project to another.

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  4. Yep, I'm the dreamer - hubby is the realist... perhaps why I make little lands - to capture my dreams! xx

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  5. I think my hubby and I share a bit of both.
    Although I often shudder when I hear the words, "baby, I have an idea" come from his mouth. It is often something quite far fetched and ridiculous... and always hilarious.
    His dreams keep life exciting.
    My dreams are often relatively sensible.
    Our dream at the moment is to travel around Australia in a '69 Bedford bus called wanda... and we're building it right now! One day soon she will be finished and we will be living that dream. So exciting.
    It's nice that you can appreciate what you have right now. It's something people often forget when they get caught up in their dreams.
    All the best.
    Kitty

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    1. I love this Kitty! I think your current dream / almost reality is an incredible one and I love following along.

      xx melania

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    2. I also love this dream! AND YOU"RE DOING IT!! BAM

      thanks for commenting Kitty, so lovely to have you

      x

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  6. I used to be the dreamer, but at the moment I am def the realist ... my current goals are simply to provide my bubs with as happy and settled (and clean) a home as possible! So Rodge does all the dreaming for us both (and somehow doesn't seem to notice the chaotic mess). I'm sure that sometime, in the near future, I'll start dreaming big(gish) again. (:

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    1. Im, you have spoken EXACTLY what I wanted to convey!

      i've been thiking of you lots and checking in

      xx

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  7. Oh yes. My husband is so much like yours. Dreams and Does. Me? I'm only just starting to think outside of children and what I'd like to do in the next few years. Probably the first time I've thought about a five year plan.

    We are the perfect match too. x

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  8. I fall under the realist category. I love to stay in the moment on my terms. Great post!!

    Janet

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  9. Great post. I am the dreamer in our house although the everyday mundane makes me happy. I think it makes for a good balance. I am always thinking that everything will be alright in the end.

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  10. adore your blog! your header is the best ever! ^^
    xx

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  11. OH I LOVE this post! I am learning to feel less guilty for being such a dreamer - and learning to make him a bit less of a realist :) But I have come along way in terms of appreciating the little things more - I'm so grateful he's taught me this.

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  12. Dale is the dreamer, and i'm the scardy cat. I am terrible with change, and he really needs to pull me along for the ride most of the time.

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  13. My husband is the dreamer and I am content to just be. But Peter is sometimes a little nervous to take leaps and suprisingly I am the one that pushes him.
    He's my chalk and I'm his cheese.
    I like hearing his new ideas. I believe in him, I wish he wouldn't doubt himself as much.

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  14. Ha! I think we are both the dreamers here. I think that's probably why we have done everything on your maybe one day list (except kill cows) and now we are looking for the next big thing...gotta keep moving. Bren is reading a book about all the backyard farmers in a little town in Italy, maybe that's next..who knows. Happy weekend. xx

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  15. I think we are both a bit dreamer-ish. We just landed ourselves on the other side of the country from everyone we know and love, now 20 weeks pregnant and expecting to welcome this kid into a 16, 000 people town where we know very few people (and anywhere that is somewhere is a LONG way from here). I guess we're pretty optimistic about things, we're grateful for a whole lot and we hope that if we need to change things, we'll do it for the sake of our relationship, our health and our sanity!! Looking forward to seeing where your dreamer/realist journey heads, for now it's looking pretty sweet. Melania x

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  16. No dreamers, but dreamy just the same. x

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  17. Oh man, am I guilty of dreaming - BIG, wild dreams! That's what makes Sam so completely perfect for me, as she can see my vision and help make it a reality (or at least let me down easily if it's too far fetched!) In turn, without me, Sam would be content living day to day, with the washing and dishes and crumby floors.
    Somewhere along the way we've discovered a mutual dream - to relocate overseas (I'm keeping where close to my chest for now) and pursue our music and theatre careers. It's a little way off at the moment but I can see it in the distance. Plenty of dreaming and planning ahead of us! xx

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  18. I dream a lot in my head but don't share them. Our dreams are so different, mine is to travel around Australia in a campervan & to move to country Tasmania, he dreams about leaving Australia to live in Hollywood. Like chalk & cheese. I used to be optimistic about my dreams for the future but now i'm not, life gets in the way & i don't see it getting any better.

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  19. I can just see us in your post. Only the reverse. I'm the dreamer and my man, he's the realist. Thankfully because he is the steady one that picks up the pieces I drop as well. I just had a great chuckle reading this. Thanks.

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  20. I dream big in my head...I always have a plan and I always imagine it working out and coming to fruition in the biggest way.
    But I get bogged down by the monotony of reality.
    I keep telling myself one day I will have to time and the energy to devote to my dreams...and in the meantime I will enjoy my lovely husband and my perfect toddler and our totally normal life!

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  21. oh how i missed you! this summer has been frantic, weve only touched base at home for 2 weeks and my computer died totally...just doing proper catch ups now on blog reading as had 3 kiddies out today! Yes child free first time in 8 years (busby started nursery today!) anyhows that's where i have been and its fab to be back at the shack! I dream big, it claws and bashes its way out from the laundry piles and often demands action....like buying a dog....getting a second hand trailer tent and going camping for weeks, like boarding a plane on my own and travelling into the unknown in the Ukraine in minus 30 weather to find an orphan with special needs lost in an institution (who i found, photographed and is now coming home to a forever family!! YAY) hubby is a realist who puts stoppers on the crazy and its needed!!! i dream a lot but rarely can i actually pin down what i want...my dreams change....i am still searching xxxxxxx

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  22. I am the dreamer and my husband is the realist. I need sleep/ rest to dream which is hard to come by with small kiddies and a business. Dreams keep though and it's so good to take them out, dust them off and revisit them once in a while!

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em