Friday, June 7, 2013

Big Plans



It's been over 7 years since Dave and I have owned a t.v. When we first moved into The Beetle Shack we decided that we would ditch the box in favour of more creative pursuits (i wrote about it here).  We were home less, out more, entertained friends regularly and had the brain capacity for conversation and genuine engagement.

Life has changed.

Three kids later and we are home all. the. time. We seldom entertain and seriously, don't try and have a conversation with me after 7 pm. Give me a cup of tea and a screen to look at, please.

When our Big Mac (which acted as our TV screen for ABC iview) died it's final death 3 weeks before Elke was born Dave was left wondering what would be the best replacement. I, on the other hand was wondering how the hell I would survive my final weeks of pregnancy sans iview*.

The lap top stepped in and much play school was watched on it's tiny screen while Dave and I talked over the options.

We knew we 'needed' a decent sized screen for the kids and our sanity but we simply didn't have the cash to replace the Mac. We also knew we didn't really want free to air TV because it's deliciously addictive.

In the end we picked up a small 'smart tv' for about $500. It arrived yesterday and tonight we have big plans.

A movie (don't even need a disk), some take away and endless cups of hot tea.

Hello parenthood, you're o'right.

What's your favourite way to spend a friday night?




* I did survive, but only just.


on being a tv-less wanker


36 comments:

  1. you are so very right and awesome. I always deplored the television. But after my third was born, and my husband was out every night, I reconsidered. I even did the worst thing (in my mind) as I put the tiny tv in the older boys room so they could watch a quiet child friendly documentary while I nursed the newborn to sleep. Before that moment, it was the older two interrupting every two minutes asking if I would come read to them; and I would, quite literally be weeping by the end of the evening because it would be 10pm and all three would be still be awake. The whole experience left me with a new found respect for single moms and humbled; as I, with much guilt put the tiny hand me down t.v. in their room.

    anyway this is all to say...rock on and embrace it. We are not the culture we were 100years ago, and that.is.okay. xxoo

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  2. hahahahaha I just actually googled "how do I know if my TV is smart?". I think that says it all, really. xx S

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  3. Friday: take out (thai or indian), DVD, wine and fluffy slippers. Get off the crazy train, it's a rave a minute at our house too

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    1. oh sounds perfect. im stopping myself from going into detail regarding best choices for indian!

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  4. Sounds idyllic - unfortunately in my isolated region where broadband is extremely expensive viewing TV via the internet is not a viable option for us. If Tony Abbott has his way with our NBN I fear we will never have the option either :(

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  5. My perfect Friday night at the moment would involve a steak sandwich, a hot bubble bath and bed by 8pm. Ahhhh :)

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  6. You've just described our house. No TV, a big Mac (though it's still working) and very limited screen time. I swore up and down my kids would not watch TV until they were at school. Oh how the mighty have fallen!

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  7. Friday night is family movie night here. We pull out an awesome 80's kids movie ( think Labyrinth, Back to the Future, Herbie, an American Tale) and I make popcorn. We start early so the kids are in bed by 8.30. The kids look forward to it so much that they are talking about it at breakfast on Friday mornings!

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  8. My perfect Friday night is spent cleaning. It's taken a while to realise that if I pull out all the stops to get the house clean and washing sorted on Friday night that the weekend is all that much more pleasant. No doubt that will change once kids come along ...

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  9. We have a tele. My darling grew up in a house without one, and was glued to it at anybody elses. When our old tele died he was the one who had to rush out to replace it. ABC4kids is my saviour. As for adults watching the tele once the kids stop in the afternoon, it just doesn't happen very often around here. Though we do love iView and our Apple tv thing. Friday nights can mean fun - if we head out all together or sometimes just me and him, but the best thing is that he doesn't have to rush off the next morning!! Tonight we're heading in to Vivid, fingers crossed Master 4 manages to walk some of the way around the Quay etc!

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  10. We have TV but it isn't plugged in to an aerial, it's connected to Apple TV which we stream iview or movies etc to via the iPad. I totally agree with avoiding having a full time connection to free to air or cable. Without it we get to selectively view what we want while avoiding ads and watching things just because they're on.

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  11. Watching a swedish crime drama, wine and a cuddle on the sofa. Fire on (if winter). Summer, pottering. Watch tv so much less when its daylight outside. X

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  12. We are TV free here. As soon as my kids go to anyones house who has a tv, guess what the want to do........poor things.

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  13. Lol - with an eight week old, my husband just called to ask what I wanted to do tonight (Friday night) and I replied grab some Mexican take away, wash my hair and finish the ironing once baby is down for the night! But I love parenthood nevertheless. Shari from www.goodfoodweek.blogspot.com

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  14. Being country folk we can nly get wireless Internet and not unlimitedGB etc unfortunately so we canon download a million series. HOWEVER, we have rules around the TV. Nil tV for the school kid Mon-thurs except deadly 60. Weekends she can watch a movie. But during a hotSmmer with a new baby and a new ai con that all went out the window!

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  15. We are so anti-TV, we don't even own a flat screen! It is never on, except for half an hour of play school, or a special movie treat (we do it the old fashioned way - visit the video store). My husband dreams of a super sized one on the wall, but I insist only after our big box has died. Quite frankly we have more to spend our money on (like beach cottage renovations)! X

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  16. So funny to read this as i was just chatting to a friend a few minutes ago about ditching our tele and the time it would create for more creative things but i'm not game as it is so good in those moments when i need to put the kidlets in front of it for a little while to get something urgent done. Nothing else holds their attention like tv. It is so good in those moments ;-) and remains off the rest of the time.

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  17. good idea, sometimes you really need a tv...
    our perfect friday night would be a homemade special dinner, some wine and a good movie

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  18. oooo i lioved for years with no tv and loved it, but having kids and being mum and being 'in' and not running mountains any time the whim hits kinda makes me glad i have a tv and i hate that! as for friday night....my list is so sad and feeble i dont even want to say but its kicked me up the rump a little! xxxx

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  19. My perfect Friday night is watching Silent Witness on iview! The only drama I can be bothered to watch at the moment! We too are tv-less wankers, and just watch iview on the laptop. Interested in this smart tv though, will have to look into it! Have fun, sounds like a cosy night ahead!

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  20. We didn't have a TV for a long time...if there was something we wanted to watch we sought it out on iTunes.
    We have a TV now but besides watching The Block (me) and obscure cycling races (him) it is rarely on.
    I still prefer to decide what I want to watch and when and then download accordingly!
    Most of my Friday nights are perfect...dinner and drinks courtesy of Toddler C's godfamily then home to put him in bed, then a cup of tea and some couch time!
    Happy weekend!

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  21. A glass of red wine.nice dark choc with hazelnut and a good.movie once boys asleep if not doing uni work. =°}

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  22. We don't have a TV/Cable, but we do have a projector. We got it from a secondhand store for 150$, and alongside Netflix it works wonderfully, it's LED powered, no HD or anything, but that doesn't bother me much. I don't want this to sound judgmental, but 500$ seems like an awful lot for a TV, does it make you dinner too!? ;) <3

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    1. Also, our Fridays are normally spent relaxing as always, the only difference is we tend to stay up later (Jesse and I) and maybe get a special treat out. We're looking forward to purchasing a car in August and being able to drop off our son at the grandparents and have a much needed vacation!

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    2. Not judgemental at all Jesi! By American standards it would be expensive but appliances (and everything else) are much more expensive here in Australia- it's so frustrating.

      Fridays sound lovely for you :))

      xx

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    3. Ah yes! You're on a big ol' island. I think my biggest problem with TV is adverts, but I don't know, do you guys have cable? Or just the screen? I'm pretty selective about what kind of programming we watch though, so it's a bit different for my family. We actually just got rid of the projector, and gave it to our church's youth group, we figure the macbook and an ipad is enough screens for us, but we only have one toddler! If I had 3, we'd have like a million TV's and mac and cheese every night, so you're doing pretty darn well! ;)

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  23. After being tv free for 16 years we caved last year when we were given a flatscreen. Thank goodness. Would not have survived these last 4 weeks juggling newborn and toddler without ABC for kids! But partner and I so used to watching everything on laptop we still spend Fridays folding the laundry and watching Gardening Australia on iview. Settling into the ripe old age of 34, oh yes. :)

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  24. We moved into our new/old farmhouse 9 weeks ago, no TV connected out here (we're fairly remote, an hour to 'town', mail twice a week) Before we were here we were traveling around Australia for 15 months, so a while between watching the news at 7 every night ;)
    Yesterday the TV aerial man came to see if we could get digital TV, no can do, he came back this morning and connected satellite TV. As much as I said I wouldn't miss having TV I really did - oh the shame! BUT iview was not an option on our meagre internet data allowances that we can get out here, I can't download and watch things I want to. So it was literally NO TV - the only things I wanted to watch were the news, q an a, four corners, that sort of thing, ok and maybe offspring. So as of this morning we have TV again, first time in 18 months. I'm hoping that time without it will make us different TV viewers, time will tell.

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  25. I think having a TV (with the adult having the remote - deciding what is watched and when) is the same as having iview on laptop/ipad. Isn't?

    Yay for abckids - TV or iview version :)

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  26. " We were home less, out more, entertained friends regularly and had the brain capacity for conversation and genuine engagement." That says it all!
    Rosemary

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  27. I have no idea what a smart tv is... eeek! We have a huge screen that was free (blessed)... no free to air tv here either. My boys are challenged with complete screen addictions - hence the choice to not do 'tv'. I do admit - it challenges me to find something good to download or buy on dvd!

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  28. we are going through this now, i have no idea which tv to buy, which size/brand....oh so overwhelming *sigh* do yo mind me asking which smart TV you decided upon? Thanking you in advance for your advice! xx

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em