Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Meeting Elke {a birth story of sorts}





I've been thinking about, and procrastinating over writing Elke's birth story. I've never really written a blow by blow birth story before and to be honest, I don't really want to.

It just doesn't sit right with me. As much as I love reading the birth stories of other women and have immense respect for those who choose to eloquently share their experiences, I just don't feel compelled to do the same.

I've tried to put some words on the screen but they just won't come, not yet. Maybe ever.

I don't know why, maybe because it all just seems so far removed from real life. Almost irrelevant, really.

To be honest, I only have one word - sacred.

That moment when you hear your baby utter their first, guttural cry and when you feel their warm, silky soft flesh on yours. The moment when they nod their tiny head all over your chest before latching on and learning to suck followed by sweet, connected slumber. That togetherness, that fierce lioness love.

I simply don't have the skills to do the story justice. There are no words that can adequately unpack the experience.

So i won't even try. I'll just confirm what you'd already know- meeting a human you've grown in your body is nothing short of a miracle. Everything about it is raw and breathtaking and primal and perfect (even when it's not 'perfect').

 A beautiful gift from a loving Creator.

So Elke, the story of your miraculous birth remains yours and mine and your fathers.


having a caesar and being a failure at birth
an attempt at context
birth and advice
case in point



In the coming days i'll share some of the practical things one could expect when having a caesarian section... and you know, a baby, as I feel like that could be useful.

40 comments:

  1. And how sacred it is. Birth is a miraculous thing, something I don't ever hope to fathom until I, myself, birth any future babes. She is beautiful, Em.

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  2. Perfection. Just as it was intended - for you, Dave & Elke.
    She truly is a gift from a loving Creator.

    Sar xx

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  3. yes indeedy. sacred. and so surreal, it's as though saying the words aloud reduce the importance somehow. I feel so fortunate to have grown and birthed babies, and found it all very humbling. have a sweet evening, hope those feet of yours are up. s.

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  4. Beautiful. I think you've said it all there. Sacred. xo

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  5. You just shared the most intimate and beautiful part ...the love for the life you were blessed to carry and bring into this world. I think what you wrote was her beautiful and sacred birth story. XO

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  6. I'm pretty sure that is all that needs to be said. I don't think you need to say anymore, you've pretty much summed it up (Especially with the lioness bit!)

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  7. Perfectly conveyed and so beautifully put, Em. I'm with you, I'd find it almost impossible to write the story of my baby's births, but it is etched in my mind for eternity. Love that precious photo, those first pics are the best xoxo

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  8. I feel the same way, I think words are not enough to describe such sacred moment :)
    sweet words

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  9. Such a beautiful non birth story. That first cry, words cannot describe the immensity of it. Oh how I miss having little babies.

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  10. oh my goodness i get this! emily you have just inspired a post! will le t you know when its up! lovely and that picture, breathing hard not to cry here! x

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  11. um, I think I echo others in that this was beautiful and you could not have made it more poignant or wonderful. Remember it is your birth story because it is your own -it is made beautiful by you and the love you share with little Elke. xo

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  12. What a beautiful post. Birth really is a sacred thing. I'm glad you are keeping this special moment in time for your family. All the best in your recovery! (Btw, I have a little one who goes by Zeph as well. Not sure if they've got the actual same name, but I have to say, what an excellent nickname!)

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  13. I have a photo almost exactly the same when my daughter was born. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane, Australia

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  14. Oh, sacred. I totally agree. x

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  15. So happy your experience was perfect and that you are able to reflect on it that way from the start. Personally, 'sacred' as a description of my boy's birth only comes with hindsight....overwhelming, fast, traumatic...the other side of that story. But yes, sacred. x

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  16. Sweet sweet perfection xx

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  17. Em, you are so right and bright and clever! I wrote Nora's birth story ages ago, but never put it on my blog, because I knew I didn't do it justice. And it is a sacred moment – just for Mum, Dad and newborn.

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  18. no words can capture that moment. the power of it the pure joy of it. but somehow you just did?... (well maybe just a little!) Al xx

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  19. Perfect.
    And if in nine months I am writing similar words on my blog, I blame you and adorable Elke...the two of you are making me want another one!

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  20. That is so true what you have written about a birth story, it is sacred and just so amazing to put into words,love it thankyou.Lisa Mckenzie

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  21. It is so sacred and indescribable. I sometimes contemplate having 7000 babies just so can experience those first moments over and over!

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  22. Completely agree! I just can't comprehend how public some parents are. That degree of sharing to a reader (in my opinion) actually taints what is so private and sacred. It's a story to be held & cherished by the creators to share with their children.

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  23. Perfection! It is so wonderfully sacred. x

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  24. You, my dear, are a wonderful Mother. xo

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  27. Oh wow! Congratulations!!! I don't know what's happened to my blog list but I haven't had updates from your blog in a little while so I've missed the birth!!! What a gorgeous name - Elke. I'm off to fix up whatever's gone wrong with my blog list so I don't miss out again:) x

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  28. I love this. I think everyone is different. I had to get it on paper. The story was practically tormenting me, writing itself over and over again in my head, and it just wouldn't shut up until I put pen to paper... or fingers to keyboard. I agree, though... what's it matter? Neither of my births were the home birth I had planned on and in the end, it didn't matter... It's almost like the birth is the preface to a novel you rarely read... chapter one starts with that baby snuggled on your chest, taking those first breaths.

    Story or not, your words are beautiful. Many congrats to you and your family. Hope you're recovering well.

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  29. I feel the same right now about Olive's birth story. I want to write it, document it, but there are no words, it's beyond me. Meeting your little person really is sacred and miraculous and indescribable. Just be in the moment and enjoy these newborn days..x

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  30. That in itself is just so beautifully written. It is such a personal thing. And it is indeed a miracle. We have an amazing loving creator, indeed. x

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  31. And sometimes that's all that needs to be said. I love that you haven't forced yourself to do something that doesn't feel right for you, right now. Some mother bloggers write beautiful and touching and very honest accounts of their experiences with birth, and as far as I'm concerned, you've done the same. You always blog from the heart and your space here is all the better for it. xx

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    congratulations!

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em