Thursday, December 13, 2012

Finding out Baby's gender









I've had a couple of people ask me over on Facebook and right here on the blog if we're going to find out the gender of this wee little baby, you know, the one in my tummy.

For each of my other pregnancies we have indeed jumped at the chance to discover the gender of our unborn babies. We've relished the opportunity to 'get to know' them while they dwell in-utero. To narrow down the list of names and to prayerfully ponder all that they may become.

This time though, we've decided to keep it a secret.

There is so much we already know about birth** and parenting (and even more we don't know) and I suppose the thought of a little bit of 'unknown' is appealing to us this time.

So, we will have a girl baby or a boy baby (but not one of each, there's only one in there).

Did you find out the gender of your babies?

Tell me, what do you think i'm having?





**i'll be having a planned c-section this time and i'll be writing about it a little later on.

EDIT: please note that in no way do Dave and I think that one way is more right or wrong, more or less fun or more or less admirable. For us it's a personal choice and we've chosen both at various times. Babies are always awesome and always surprising. 

41 comments:

  1. Of our five we knew the gender of three, purely because it was so blatantly obvious that even we could see the sex. In the respect of being able to prepare etc it was great, but finding out at the birth what our babe was was just magical.
    Either way Em, it's such a wonderful time to be embraced and I wish you well during the remainder of your pregnancy.
    x

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  2. We never found out with our 3 boys, After not finding out with our first, I was addicted to that magical moment when they where born...Best surprise EVER!!!! Each to there own but, I can Soooo understand why people do find out.

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  3. One of life’s only and best surprises in my opinion! I didn’t find out with either. Good to hear you won’t be finding out. Seems to be the minority these day! x x x

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  4. We didn't find out with our first. We then found out with the second, and didn't tell anyone. Then we found out with the third and told only close friends {my family likes to talk}. My mother-in-law thinks that we didn't find out for any of them and has actually said that she would be really disappointed if we had found out... so... we just don't talk about it!

    Each to their own...

    All the best - very exciting times for you!

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  5. How wonderful to mix things up a bit with your third pregnancy!
    We have two children and haven't found out the gender for either. People would look at us strangely when we would announce that we didn't know what we were having. I was thinking we were in the majority, but apparently we weren't!
    I love the surprise. LOVE it. I guess I never got the needing to know the gender to bond. We made up cute little names for our preggo babies and that was enough for us. My favourite moment in both births was discovering if we had a boy or girl. That mixture of relief, excitement, love and surprise - well in my eyes, you just can't beat it. I also love that I was convinced (just through looking at our boomba second baby seconds afer birth) our second baby was a boy just like her big brother because of her size. It was a surprising moment to take a peek and discover - nope, just a big girl!
    I think you are having another girl btw :)

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  6. We found out with Toddler C but I always say that if we ever have another one we won't find out...like you said with the first one so much was new and unknown but with a second one I think I would need that light at the end of the tunnel!

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  7. I think a surprise is best. I'm not planning on finding out at all when (fingers crossed in a few years) I'm pregnant. Also I really like gender neutral clothes on babies rather than typical blue and some of the shocking hues of pink that are around! I'm so suprised at the amount of people who don't have a suprise. It's so common for people to be shocked when women don't know what they are having. We already know so much these days, why not keep a little suspense?!

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  8. We never found out, but I secretly wanted too!

    xo

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  9. Oh and by the way a girl I went to school with was talking about having "tiny girl" all through her pregnancy and when it came to the birth "tiny girl" came with an extra appendage! She quickly put a call out for second hand boys baby clothes as she had absolutely everything in pink! Her tiny boy is gorgeous but it must have been a huge shock!

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  10. We didnt find out with our first child, a son. We found out with our 2nd (as we wanted to know whether we had to go and buy girly colours) but didn't tell anyone, there was no shopping spree as it was our 2nd son . Number 3, we found out and told everyone, as a lot of people were hoping it was a girl and my step mother had even begun knitting in pink, has to tell her it wasn't necessary, it was our third son. Our 4th we also found out and told everyone, as again everyone was hoping it was a girl (surprisingly, neither my husband nor I really cared what sex it was, we just preferred that it was healthy and that I stayed healthy throughout the pregnancy), and he was our 4th son. Due to health concerns, we are definitely not having anymore children, and we didnt have no 2, 3 or 4 to try to have a girl, we just wanted 4 children. We are extremely happy having 4 boys, but a lot of people seem to think that I should have an issue with not having a daughter. There are times when being the only girl does get me down a little, particularly, cleaning the toilet after 4 boys (and possibly a husband!) who somehow seem to miss everytime they go, but I definitely wouldnt change my family for anything.
    I know there are people strongly for and against finding out and then wether to tell or not if you do find out, but I think like just about everything else in parenting, you and your spouse/partner need to work out what best suits you, and it shouldnt be up to anyone else to decide or judge you for those decisions.

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  11. Yay for surprises and guessing games (SO much more fun, right?)!

    I say GIRL x

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  12. Our first born was a surprise (a boy) and then second time around I just felt it would be nice to know...so we found out (it was a girl) but told people that we didn't know....so it was a surprise to everyone else!!! it was cute keeping it a secret and laughing at all the people who would guess with certainty! I think a surprise is lovely though - good on you! xx

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  13. I also want a surprise baby next time, I feel the same as you do.

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  14. I didn't find out for my first, but I did for my second. If I ever have a third, I won't find out. There's something special in the anticipation of it all.
    ~FringeGirl

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  15. we didn't find out with any of ours, I just loved the surprise, and I loved not knowing. I also loved the look on people's faces when they would ask 'so do you know what you're having?' and I would say 'no'. most thought I was crazy for not finding out.. I still don't understand that reaction?!! hmmm.. I think you're having a girl x

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  16. Interesting isn't it!!! I think we'll find out the gender for our first (there's already so much new happening) but leave it as a surprise for any babies after that. My mum was so convinced I was going to be a boy she painted the cot navy blue and then out popped a girl! I think you'll have another boy x

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  17. We couldn't help ourselves...we simply had to know!! Would love to not find out if we have another one but I don't think we could stick it out. A pudgy thighed, sweet milk smelling, downy haired ball of squish is what you're having. And he or she is one lucky bubba to not only be coming into this magic world but also to land into your beautiful shack. HOpe you Friday is lovely :) x

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  18. Found out with Abbie and had a surprise with Millie. LOVED the surprise. Forgot to even ask what I had for a good few minutes! Hehe, I'm with Steph.....a sweet milk smelling bundle of love is what you are having!

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  19. Surprises are the best!! Good choice. And I reckon boy. But I'm ALWAYS wrong ;) xx

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  20. My first born was a sursorise baby, my second was only going to be 13 months apart from the first so out of necessity we did find out!! Now I am 27 weeks with #3 and it is another surprise!!!!!
    And I am Dying to chat with you!! I love your blog!!! Email me please:) xoxoxo Hanna

    Font worry I'm not a crazy person! I just think your lovely!

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  22. We are pregnant with twins right now, and we're not finding out the genders. I found out with my first two boys though. Honestly, I don't mind knowing either way. It's mostly my husband who wants it to be a surprise. I guess either way has its pros and cons. On the the one hand, it's really hard to shop for clothes when you don't know, but on the other hand, it makes the day they are born that much more special and exciting.

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  23. Is going to be a boy!

    I have a boy and if i would have another, i would prefer not to know the gender...

    Big kisses

    http://aliceinbo2.blogspot.com.es/

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  24. Husband and I have been talking about this a lot lately! We do not have kiddos yet but for future I tend to lean toward not knowing the sex... Husband on the other hand would definitely want to know! I have a feeling that when God gives us babies, husband and I will be so excited that we will have no problem agreeing on whether to wait or not :)


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  25. Hmmmm.... I think perhaps a girl. We've had one surprise and one non surprise and I really really REALLY liked knowing the gender! But I agree with you on this one - especially if you know the day and the hour baby will arrive and everything else, a beautiful surprise at the end of the caesar sounds perfect :)

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  26. We didn't find out for our 1st (a girl) or 2nd (a boy) and we don't intend to find out for our 3rd. I love the surprise, for me it's the biggest surprise of your life! I don't feel I can bond with a gender so it makes no difference to me knowing or not knowing. I couldn't possibly have imagined the two wonderful little personalities that Matilda and Owen have become before meeting them. I love choosing names, I hate gender stereotypes, and I loathe pink. My two mini-beasts have five older cousins, three boys and two girls, hand-me downs were worn strictly on a what smells the least basis. They looked roughly identical for the first year of their lives. When people ask me what I'm having I say "a baby". Although when we took her along to the scan, my first born excitedly pointed at the screen and exclaimed “dog, dog”. But any doubts on that score were cleared up at birth.

    I have no idea what you're having but I'm sure it'll make absolutely no difference to how much love Dave, Zeph, Pippi and you feel for them.

    Bx

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  27. How lovely that you are not getting the official answer.I'm glad it doesn't matter to you. But having carried one of each you will probably have a gut feeling (Bad pun intended!). I'm sure Joseph ran around your womb like a caged lion. My Dave sure did. And the girls were quieter. I'm sure it could be the opposite depending on personality. In my day they couldn't tell you by looking, but boys heartbeats are faster and my obst. told me Dave's were. I hope that hasn't spoilt it for you. I guessed right with all of mine. Maybe you will too.

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  28. With my first one I couldn't stand the suspense and so I schooled up on how to sex babies from a 12 wk scan (it's all in the angle...) and correctly identified a girl. With this little fella, I couldn't get a clear shot to work from on the 12 wk scan but at the 19 wk he was letting it hang out with pride!

    That said, both times my gut feeling was confirmed anyway. I think it's lovely to have a surprise. I just can't handle suspense!

    Congrats.

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  29. It's one of life's only REAL surprise, so for our three we never found out.

    God's blessings for the coming months of suspense and anticipation.

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  30. Bless you Em! I loved that my hubby and I shared meeting our 3rd boy together as a surprise, a very special moment meeting your new creation.. and when everyone consoled me
    (! Yes... Condolences for a 3rd boy!!! UNBELIEVABLE! a healthy 3rd child and condolences...this is one crazy world) I shrugged in disbelief
    I didn't get the importance of gender... cos I got my Eddy, he wasn't a category, he is my baby Eddy. Love my baby Eddy.

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  31. oops, and I am guessing.... Boy????
    Pardon the personal...but do you have... like.... good dreams????? then a boy!!!!!

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  32. I love surprises and we didn't find out with all three - it was an amazing experience discovering the sex ourselves. Not knowing made the whole birthing thing a bit more exciting and distracted me from the yucky stuff.
    P.S....I think you may be having a little girl.

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  33. Surprisingly I loved not knowing the gender with my son. Very surprisingly because I am usually a bit of a control freak and like to be organised- but like others have said it is definitely one of lifes only real surprises. I think girl x

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  34. I'm so glad we found out this time because I was sure we were going to have a boy and would have been in a wee bit of shock.

    You've got one of each. Joy to the unknown!

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  35. Oh Em, do buy and wrap yourself a special pressie to open after the birth!
    A little hip hip hooray to you that you can open when its so nice and quiet...around 4:30 when you don't have to run the bath, separate screaming kids, prepare tea, turn oven on or off depending, then remember to turn off the running bath.... yes... 4:30 in hospital I snuggled my new package and whispered to him... we will never get this stillness back!

    And ban any visits from other darling children at this time! Being cheeky aren't I! But aint it the truth.

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  36. We didn't find out for our two kids, and we are keeping number 3 a surprise too. And although it is soooo tempting to just find out at the scan, it is WELL worth the wait. It's the most special surprise you will ever have and you will never forget those words "it's a ....."

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  37. Oh I'd LOVE a surprise if I ever have more babies but I'm one of those 'shake the christmas present people' and demand to be told about surprise plans/gifts/anythings so i reckon i'd be clawing at the midwife asking BOY OR GIRL!!?? Not that it even MATTERS! I'm weird like that. I just like to know. I knew with Jude. Was too excited. I was so happy he was alive, there, had fingers and toes and a beating heart. Tears streamed down my face. Gosh... babies are cute. Even weird looking ultrasound ones. x

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  38. We found out with lachie but I'm hoping when we have another babe I'll be strong enough to hold out and not find out as I think the surprise could be wonderful!

    x Laura

    p.s. I think you are having a girl. I have about a 95 per cent success rate at guessing these things, just so you know. ;)

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  39. I think girl. First time round we didn't find out, I was convinced it was a girl so it was quite a surprise to give birth to a boy. Second time round we found out - our son kept saying he was going to have a sister and I just wanted to give him time to adapt beforehand. Turns out he was as bad at guessing as I was ;)

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  40. I had my first baby, a girl, just over 10 weeks ago. We didn't find out the gender. I wanted to keep it a surprise, hubby wanted to find out, the ultrasound technician said she wouldn't have been able to tell us anyway because bub had her legs firmly crossed.
    I knew from the very second i saw those 2 lines show up on the pregnancy test that i would have a girl. It was so lovely not knowing & hearing everyones predictions (most people thought i would have a boy from the way i was carrying & i was so happy to prove them wrong!)
    The moment they held her up so we could see the gender for ourselves when she arrived was the most beautiful moment, i kept repeating over & over between tears "i knew it, i knew it, i knew it!"
    For your family i'm predicting another lovely little girl!

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  41. Good on you guys, I always love when parents firmly stand behind their choice, whatever that may be. It was a surprise for us with both of our boys... and our second was probably the biggest surprise, as I was almost certain he was a she. I loved having the surprise at the end though, such a thrilling moment.
    I am always a terrible guess when it comes to babes, maybe a boy!? So, you'll probably have a girl ;) xo

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em