Thursday, December 20, 2012
The thought of my immediate family expanding even further has prompted me to consider our family values. To reflect upon what is important to us. You know, things like dinner table conversation, togetherness and really, really well behaved children (not).
Dave and I were raised in completely different ways on opposite sides of this sunburnt country. His family is disciplined while I come from a gaggle of pleasure seekers. Regardless, both of us are opinionated, driven and maybe a little hot tempered. Okay, okay- i'm hot tempered.
It means our family home is full of conversation, sometimes with raised voices. A busy home with endless projects to keep us occupied, punctuated by cups of hot tea after lunch and icy cold beers in the evenings.
Together, Dave and I make a pretty good team (when we're not screaming at each other whilst trying to brush our teeth). We find a middle ground on most issues and often spur one another on in our individual creative interests.
Slowing, we are building our own family values. Usually unintentionally but as our children grow, we feel the need to pause, regroup and really consider the path we are traveling.
We want our children to be respectful but we also want to encourage boundary pushing and questioning the status quo. We want them to be creative in whatever way they choose. We hope to teach them to be endlessly kind to others and to think of themselves second, only after they've considered those around them. We pray that they will have a healthy respect for this planet and the unknown ferocity of nature. And mostly, a genuine love for it's Creator.
We hope that we can lead by example. By being kind and respectful to others while standing firm in what we believe is right.
Each day as we guide them, our children become our teachers. They reflect us, sometimes the ugly other times the lovely. They are a refining fire- making us strive to be more whole, for their sake.
Call me crazy, but the longer I do this parenting thing- the more I love it*.
What values would you say are important to your family?
*did I just make you gag a little bit?