Monday, October 8, 2012

True Perspective




A while ago I wrote about how in some crazy part of my insecure self, I linked my success here, on this blog to my personal feelings about myself; my success as a person.

It was a strange thing to confess, but I suspect not really a surprise, however unhealthy it may be.

I suppose i've always associated success with certain tangible/ superficial things. Whether it be having great clothes, a nice house, a good job, international holidays etc. For so long these things provided me with security, a sense of self... or self worth if you will.

That is until I had children and my world changed.

I could no longer identify myself with these things, as they no longer existed for me.

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The other day I had a moment of such sparkling clarity that I almost fell to my knees.

It was a simple moment, one much like many others that had passed before it. The kids and I were pottering about in the front garden, they were doing their thing and I mine.

 I looked up from where I was working to see my Young Man walking towards me. With a stride in his step and pure confidence in his voice he announced 'Mum, I'm just going to go down the back to feed the chooks' *

And off he stomped (we always stomp down the back to scare away the snakes).

I took a deep breath and appreciated how confident, capable and self assured that little boy is.

I'm not about to go and place my self worth in the success or security of my children, but I do find comfort in knowing that Dave and I are providing for them in the best way we know how.

Zeph moves with confidence, sure of his place here in this family. He knows the names of the herbs and vegetables in our garden - by sight, taste and scent.


This is the perspective i've been yearning for. To delight in the things that matter and things that are eternal.

Not the fleeting falsities of 'stuff'.



*We live on half an acre of un-landscaped, scrubby bush where there are snakes and spiders and hoppy joes (bull ants). The chooks are quite a way down the back and we usually all head down together.



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31 comments:

  1. "To delight in the things that matter and things that are eternal" now that's a good sentence!
    ox

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    1. aha thanks.

      I think it's the eternal part that makes it awesome.

      xo em

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  2. Can I just say firstly your garden is looking mighty healthy:) and secondly I think taking those moments of clarity and being able to see all the goodness and hard work you've put into your children is so special and your should definitely take that as a sign of being successful. x

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    1. hey Catherine,

      thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I'd love to say that is indeed our garden but those pics are of the magical Hunter Vally Gardens!

      Yes, those moments with our children truly are sacred!

      xo em

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  3. I love this post Em! Totally hit the nail-on-the-head about the things that are really important in life...the little things (and little ones we are rearing to big humans) The feeling of buying hip 'stuff' thats 'in' never really quenches the thirst for what we are really looking for deep down inside. Seems like your doing alot of thinkin in your garden, isn't it neat to connect to the earth and its simplicities! I miss our home back in Napier NZ, I had 3 massive raised vege beds on-the-go and loved the whole growing thing, now living in a fully furnished body-corp in Noosa for a year or two, lovely..but no real 'me stuff' going on.
    x

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  4. Fabulous Em. The best. In the darn hard slog that is full-time parenting pre-schoolers, moments like these are the richest. Just the richest thing ever. What a fabulous boy you have there.
    (And your cabbages!!)

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    1. Oh, they're not your cabbages. Oh well. Lucky them. :)

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  5. One of the best things I have read all year. Bravo!

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  6. So lovely to read. I want a little boy who knows the names of herbs by taste and smell! What a great kid!

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  7. I'm a bit shotty with naming herbs myself! And there is no way ever I would stomp with confidence on my own knowing there were snakes about, your little boy sounds like a boss!

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  8. Congratulations on raising such a self-assured little man and on teaching him the names of all that grows in your garden. My parents were much the same with my brother and I when we were little and now we are both keen gardeners.

    x

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  9. Possibly the best post you've ever written. You know what? I have never thought to look at my own sucesses in this way (through my children). Maybe I will tomorrow. How lovely. X

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  10. I love that he knows all the names of the plants by sight, scent and taste and that he is confident and capable. Those are wonderful qualities to impart to your kids.

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  11. Awwww your sweet boy reminds me so much of my own.
    Little boys with stride. <3
    Way to go mumma.

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  12. Really beautifully said.

    When ever I feel overwhelmed by my own insecurities I take my boy wonders to the park and watch them play, jump, smile and climb and remind myself that this is what it is all about.

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  13. I love the confidence and innocence of children. It makes me wonder, at what point on our journey to adulthood do we lose this? And why?
    I am constantly overwhelmed with my insecurities, but I'm working on it.
    Beautiful post Em. xx

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  14. What a beautiful snd inspiring post Em. It certainly is these simple things that life is all about x

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  15. Well said! That was a good thing for me to read today ;-)

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  16. It's the best feeling in the world, watching our little people grow and become their own person..x

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  17. This is just gorgeous! Probably the most valuable gift we can pass on, is self-worth and confidence, and it sounds like Zeph has just that.

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  18. I think it has something to do with dropping into what is REAL.
    Kids can do that to a person.
    As can art.
    XO
    C

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  19. I think your beautiful blog is something to be proud of! You have about a gazillion followers who all really love you, in a very real way and what you write about. But yes, good not to get too caught up in it all if you're thinking it's borderline unhealthy!
    x

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  20. What a beautiful post!

    I gave up on seeking out all of those superficial things a while ago because it all just got too ... superficial, ha! Who'd have thunk it?

    You should be so proud of your family, yourself, & your online space,

    All beautiful x

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  21. Wow, this is beautifully written, you've found all the right words :) Can I just say I'm mighty jealous of those amazing looking cabbages too!

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  22. Wow, this is beautifully written, you've found all the right words :) Can I just say I'm mighty jealous of those amazing looking cabbages too!

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  23. Oh gorgeous Em. I tend to agree, raising a confident, contented child, who feels secure and involved in the world around them and the family unit they're in... pretty awesome 'stuff'. Anything material just simply cannot measure up. Lovely pics of your handsome young man xo

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  24. Such a beautiful post. And thanks for linking back to the other one.
    So good you see your kids growing up confident.

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  25. I have gained a lot while reading your blog. I will definitely share this information with my friends.
    Thanks for sharing.
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  26. Having happy, bright and confident kids is the best success of all.

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em