Thursday, September 20, 2012

Online Persona?



Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on this post and for your truly generous affirmations. I felt them.

The other day I was filling in an online form about this little space here and one of the questions asked me to describe my 'online persona' in 200 words or less.

I was completely and utterly bamboozled.

Online Persona?

I timidly asked my cousin to form a few sentences for me so I could complete the questionnaire, which she did. But it got me thinking about you and why you continue to come here. So I wrote yesterdays post in the hope that you might offer me some clarity about my bloody 'online persona' .

You know, I write this blog for myself and my family. I blog to keep a record of the things we do, the way we do them and how we feel about life.

I record the things that are important to us and the things that are of personal interest to our family. The garden, art, our children and so on.

But if i'm truly honest, there is another important side to this little blog and that is you. You, my friends who visit here regularly (or sporadically) and read our tales of everyday nothings. And especially you who take time out from your own busy lives to comment and engage with me.

Over the past year and a half since I started this project, the above motivations have become inextricably linked and at times I find myself in a little bit of a pickle.

When I write something and get a positive response, I feel successful. I feel like I have achieved something, like I could maybe make something of this blog and never have to work again (oh yes, my mind really does go there, it does). I feel like i'm connected, important, beautiful, popular and skinny.* Yet when I post something that's a bit pas and no-one comments, or *gasp* I lose some followers, well then I feel crap and insignificant and, dare I say it, uncool.

It's a dangerous place to teeter.

 The fact is, my kids love me every day. My husband loves me almost everyday and my parents love me most of the time - so really, I have nothing but love in my back pocket.

I'm on a journey here with this blogging thing and a big part of that is accepting that I can only be me. And I need to be okay with simply, you know, just being me. like it or lump it.

I like me**





*gosh those endorphins do amazing things

** when you like me .... JOKE

38 comments:

  1. I choose to like it (not lump it). I love that you are you Em. Thats why we love you. I also love to read about you and your family. Miss not seeing you often and reading about your day makes me feel a little bit more connected to you. xxx

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  2. I know exactly how you feel!! I seriously just wrote a very similar post just recently as I started to measure my coolness factor according to comments :) You are lovely and interesting xx

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  3. I didn't get a chance yet to comment on the previous post so I might just roll it all into one comment. I love reading your blog, I love that you are so honest, you have such a wonderful family and amazing style! You worry about budgets, food, kids like all of us and yet (at least to me) you always seem to exude this beautiful calmness. If I am having a bit of a crap day I blog hop and you always make me 'breathe'. You are very cool x

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  4. I really enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for the humor and honesty; you never cease to bring a smile to my face!

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  5. I also missed commenting on your last post. The thing I admire most about your blog is your honesty.

    And blogging motivations totally change when you suddenly realise that people actually read your blog. They did for me and I'm not even imagining that my blog could make money. It is tricky remaining true to your original vision. Sometimes you have to let it morph and go with the flow.

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  6. Write what you feel like, when you feel like it. Don't set many goals. You are a great, real, honest personal blogger. Most of us personal bloggers are not cool, and that is cool with me.

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  7. keep it up...i for one won't unfollow!

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  8. It's not necessarily a bad thing when the comments dry up and we don't get many visitors 'cos it puts us in touch with the core reason that we blog and keeps us humble..at least that's what I've found. The best posts are ones where a person doesn't worry about what I want to hear but just speaks honestly from their own heart about things that matter to them.

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  9. Sometimes when you're chatting with a friend you just want to sit and listen while other times you might be more chatty ... That's sort of how I feel here. Sometimes I just like to read your posts (but I always read them) and sometimes I comment.

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    1. thats a really cool (oh wait, maybe i shouldn;t use the word 'cool') way to look at it.

      xo em

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  10. Your positive energy is infectious. Thank you for always starting my days with a smile!! :) You are a beautiful person, inside and out Em. Truly. xx

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  11. I think it's wonderful that you are simply being you! I've had to fight with myself over this very issue...do I put out there only what I think others want or do I simply be who I am, whether good or bad?! I've decided on the latter, because it's what is most honest and true and I want to live my life that way! So keep doing what you are doing and I will keep reading and enjoying every bit of it!

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  12. So I was totally going to answer yesterday's post at some point today...honest. But here we are, another post on and I still haven't (a. you're way too good at blogging everyday - how do you do that?! and b. you completely rock, i read your blog because of your honesty and your down right hilarity. And your gorgeous What You Wear posts!)
    I totally feel the same about the whole if I get lots of comments, great and if I don't, my world collapses (ok, slight exageration!) but hey, I'm getting over it and focusing on doing this blog for me and us as a family and having a diary of these awesome little adventures we're on. The weird thing is, over the last few weeks I've been getting hardly any comments yet new followers everyday and more page views a day than ever before?!

    Anyway, I feel like I've lost track...I'm having to get up from the laptop every two seconds to reposition Phiney in the middle of the room away from the fireplace/plug sockets/general un-child friendly items around our yet-to-be-baby-proofed flat. So hope that all made sense. Basically, you're awesome. Much love xxx

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  13. If I comment will it make you feel cool? Ha!

    I've been in this blogging business for 6 years now. I've worried over followers and lost likers and then more likers and comments and no comments and trolls and stopping and then starting again. I get it. It's quite the tricky business. But at the end of the day I try and remember, like you said, why I blog. For recording this time, and moments of our life, right now. To capture my feelings on life, kids, motherhood, marriage. Anyone else reading and joining in along the way is a bonus. So long as I remember what I do it for, the rest is a bonus, or problem (if negative). I have FINALLY stopped attempting to care about it. It's just not important enough, and it's not actually real. You know?

    Anyway, my 2 cents worth. You are hot, awesome and make a FABULOUS bed. The end.

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    1. BAM- it's actually not real. So truth Beth. SO TRUE!

      xx

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  14. i wasn't sure about how to respond to the previous post. Oh, there a many reasons i like to come here, but how to put into words, concisely? But now i have it. I come here for, and because of......


    you

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  15. I so 'get' that predicament between blogging for yourself, for your family and blogging to kind of be something.

    I love coming to your little space for its beautiful glimpses of life, for being pushed to think a bit differently (the most recent series on food!), and of course for your honesty.

    Keep on doing what you're doing, cause you're great at it!
    x

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  16. We all want the world to see our very best sides so that we can feel comfortable in our own selves. We show what we feel will enhance others understanding of us without inducing ire. Or even worse, eliciting no response at all. Some days that persona is a true reflection of our authentic selves and others it is a partial representation of the parts that make us. Sometimes, I am sure, posts are pure fabrication. It doesn't make the author any less wonderful, what they write any less valid and what they contribute any less important.

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  17. We all want the world to see our very best sides so that we can feel comfortable in our own selves. We show what we feel will enhance others understanding of us without inducing ire. Or even worse, eliciting no response at all. Some days that persona is a true reflection of our authentic selves and others it is a partial representation of the parts that make us. Sometimes, I am sure, posts are pure fabrication. It doesn't make the author any less wonderful, what they write any less valid and what they contribute any less important.

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  18. What a good reminder, we blog for ourselves. I personally hate scrap booking and find the clean look and ease ofa blog my favorite way to document. It would be a lie though to say it doesn't give me a thrill to see comments or that I've garnered a new follower. At the end of the day I have to remind myself what is most important and while it is fun to have 'friends' across the globe, my family and life here are my priority. :)

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  19. Sweet Em, you are such a lovely soul & it is quite evident one who thinks of others without even thinking...if that even makes sense on paper, I know what I mean ;) There are times when my posts make me feel like a big loser too...but that is purely on response rates, which is utterly ridiculous. When it's boiled down, I feel fortunate for every single comment, because there are going to be days when only a few people get a chance to visit & others when lots do. Guess we need to remember that bloggers have to spread themselves really thin sometimes...so many beautiful blogs, so little time & all that. You have a winning formula here hun, as I said yesterday, write about what you love & it will shine through & continue to be totally infectious xoxo

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  20. and you're a great, entertaining writer who we can all relate to.

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  21. I come here because I like reading someone who is grounded and honest. I don't want you to please me... I like you for you...all the grubby mummy bits included! (Actually, they are my fav!) Remember, we don't make or break you, you are already complete!

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  22. I never comment on your lovely blog though I must say I check in to read at least twice a day!!! Love everything you write about and your writing is witty and beautiful...write whatever the hell you want I say! It's your space and it's a truly special place to visit. Thanks and please keep it going!

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  23. I am coming here for the first time. You are so real and I can connect with your words so well. You explain and analyse yourself so well. You know what, I agree with you when you say that if people give feedback we feel we have achieved something good and if they do not give feedback, we feel that maybe, something is not quite right with the post...I tend to feel like that too. But like you have said,-even if we are not accepted by the society or in the blogging world, at least, at the end of the day,we have a family {although I do not have kids yet },our daily life and our creative pursuits to fall back upon for our support and well being.
    Blogging is a reflection of our real life...maybe our real life is much more rich and intense...
    So, being responsible to myself, taking life affirming decisions daily and doing what makes me happy in real life is the most important and then if I have time, I write about that/put that in my blog.
    Sharing with the world and getting feedback is also important to me but maybe today I exist in the blogging world because of "what I am" in my real world.
    You echo my thoughts. Keep writing. I will keep in touch with you through this blog,
    with love,
    Sanghamitra
    {from India}

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  24. I read your blog cause I kinda fancy your husband ... Too honest? Truth is, I visit because I feel like a friend even though I dont really know you, and thats a nice feeling. The way you write just clicks with me and I love that you share the good/bad and the gorgeous with us x

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  25. Loved this post and your previous one (love most of them really!) but haven't had time to comment until now...I like the honesty of your blog, your sense of humour, your gorgeous photos. I like that you have stuff in common with me even though we've never met. I like peeks into your wardrobe and house and life - but not in a creepy way, honest! Basically, keep doing what you're doing - you and your blog are fab and I love to visit. xx

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  26. Love your honesty xx

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  27. "I'm on a journey here with this blogging thing and a big part of that is accepting that I can only be me." You are so right. Beautifully said. So glad that you popped by my blog so that I could discover your space here. happy hellos from Portland, Oregon :)

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  28. This is such an honest post. I think it's true for most of us.
    I feel motivated and good when I get great feedback from posts too.
    But it is important to know within that success and happiness are never to be measured from the outside. You are already successful because you know this.
    You have created an environment of unconditional love for yourself.
    That is success.
    P.S: I love your blog ; )

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em