Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Some Perspective



I often despair about the state of my home. It's a reoccurring theme here at The Beetle Shack.

Being a pleasure seeker, tidiness doesn't come naturally. I'd rather be doing just about anything else. Painting in my studio, reading stories to the kids, building Duplo towers or couch slouching all sound appealing.

Yet sometimes I still get that pang of anxiety about the fluff balls down the hall.

Do you know whose wise voice springs to my mind at those times?

The voice of a wonderfully fabulous woman who I have known all of my life. I grew up with her children and completely adore them. She is creative and interesting and very, very clean.

Way back here she left this message;

"My kids have never thanked me for being clean. They only remember the time you spend with them".

Today as I tried to do twenty seven million things at once (none of which i did very well) I heard her words .... and did nothing about it.... but tomorrow, TOMORROW, I'll be the worlds best mother- promise.



'They only remember the time you spend with them'.

Tools down mums.




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21 comments:

  1. We all need these days. You reminded me that I'm in need of one. X

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  2. I try and remind myself of that saying quite a lot when the kids are pulling at me to come play with them, all the while I'm looking round at all the things needing to be done around the house.
    So true that they really only remember the time we spent with them.

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  3. That is so true. I need to adopt that as my mantra. I hate having a dirty, messy home. Prior to Baby C our house was pretty much spotless...the transition to dusty and covered in baby toys has not been an easy one for me. But I am getting there. Baby steps!

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  4. The chances are that we'll remember those times too instead of the endless dustwipemop. Letting myself go (a bit) post children was liberating, not sure why i find the clean house ideal harder to let go off x

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  5. what a good reminder. The other day my daughter told my husband 'don't go out, mummy will be too busy to play with me'. oops! so I spent today playing race cars & zoo instead of tidying, it was awesome!

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  6. I love how honest you are! I'm sure all of us Mums can identify with this. The other day I was lamenting to my lovely Mum (who was helping battle back some of the mess at the time), that I'm sure the kids made mess faster than I could clean it... and she said something quite profound. She said that a Mum's house is like a living organism, always changing, always in a state of flux. I also read something recently where a lady said she wished her house looked like a 'magazine house' - when I read that I had an epiphany that even the magazine house owners only really look like that for the photoshoot! Jen x

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  7. Thank you! I have been reading your blog for a long time and this is my first comment. I really really needed to hear that today, tomorrow is a new day and instead of folding I WILL go and jump in puddles with my toddler!

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  8. That is so true...unless your house is total dirt pit like mine. I'm sure mine are begging me to tidy up and get organised! Tomorrow i too will be a domestic godess!

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  9. exactly!
    thanks for your words about my blog ^^
    your familly is really lovely, i'm so happy to add you in my reading daily!

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  10. Yep, incredibly good advise. I stress about the fluff balls too... and I also like to get out and enjoy life. So I go through similar periods of guilt about the house here too Em. Mind you, Angus will openly tell you that Mama only cleans the house when guests are coming over. Haha, little devil, he doesn't know me at all xoxo

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  11. A necessary reminder. Have you read "Advice to Myself" by Louise Erdrich? Check out the blog laundrylinedivine.com. She just posted the poem and it's great. Thanks for your great post too.

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  12. Just another way we are all searching for that elusive balance!!! x

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  13. So very true. I generally tolerate a moderate amount of mess. I do the basics and every now and then when the dust gets too thick or the glass to smudged, I clean.

    Great photo by the way.
    x laura

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  15. I always want to do something other than cleaning. Therefore our place is always, always a mess! But so far, the kids are happy.

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  16. So so SO true. A timely reminded for me, the person who is trying sooo badly to be organised and on top of the housework, but whose kids are watching a little too much Toy Story 3...

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  17. Thank you for this post, I was getting overwhelmed trying to cope with cleaning the house and 2 little ones (1 a 7-weeker) & meh to anyone (namely MIL) who comments about what a mess my house is

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  18. I remember my mum getting us yo help clean when people would come stay. It was awful! I didn't care about the mess and was convinced out guests wouldn't either. I now see myself turning into my mum. Arrrghhhh!

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em