Thursday, April 19, 2012

What I Really Love

I honestly really love being called honey, sweetie, darling, angel or any other term of endearment by just about anyone*. For me it's a little glimpse into the speakers heart -  warm, sweet and tender. When I was growing up my dad always used to call me 'honey', 'darling' or Emie. It made me feel loved and valuable, like I was this very important little treasure to him.

Photo of my Mum, Nanna (dads mum), Brother and I.

These days I realise he calls both my mum and I 'honey' or 'darling' and to differentiate he goes with 'old honey' and 'young honey' - unsurprisingly, i still end up feeling pretty loved in this little scenario.




Thank you guys for all the 'sweetie/honey/darling' love yesterday.
It made a difference.

How do you feel about being called 'hun' by strangers?

*This excludes 15 year old girls that wear too much eyeliner and work at coles... AND students... hello? when did that become okay? 

26 comments:

  1. Ahh that would have been me, I call everyone hun. I call all my boys sweetpea or loveheart. This is very handy when I don't know who is calling me from the next room : )

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  2. The guy who sells the expensive sour dough at the growers markets calls me 'Beautiful' and 'Honey' and 'Darling' and it makes my skin crawl. Don't like (from him anyway he is just a bit too sleazy)
    I prefer my own style of nicknames, my husband is fluff or poo.

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  3. Is that directed at me? I call all female friends hun! xx

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  4. I have been nasty arse diagnosis type sick the last couple of weeks. No art teaching for this little black duck for a while. Suddenly everyone is hugging me- the dentist, the new GP (stranger), the lady dropping off a meal. They all call me love, darlin', sweety and I am loving it. I have been reduced from a robust indefatigable woman into a fragile being and the 'huns' are carrying me on a pillowy raft of unbreakability. It's all in how it's said, with sincere kindness and caring, not what is said.

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  5. *should also not include creepy old men leering.

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  6. It very much depends on the person and the situation. I use those terms of endearment a lot at home, sometimes with friends, sometimes with children at work... but like others lecherous old men are not welcome here.

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  7. Students?!?! Are you serious!!!!!??? I only like it when I know it's genuine. My dad always called me 'possum' and I loved it. I have found myself calling my two boys the same thing. X

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  8. beautiful blog post.... I call my girl 'lovely,' all the time.... I hope she will feel the way you feel. I am not sure about a person younger than me calling me 'hun' but if a little old lady called me, 'honey,' I would be more than ok with that. An old man on the other hand, well that would depend on the situation, the moment, and how it was delivered. I guess that goes for all!

    the panda eyes... hmmmm not cool kids.

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  9. "Old honey" and "young honey" - I love it!
    Rick started calling me "my darling girl" when we first started dating and he still does. It makes me feel incredibly special and loved.
    Ronnie xo

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  10. Hun, sweet, cherub, lovely are all the words I write... Hun and sweet get verbalised rather a lot and my kids are sweetness, pumpkin, sweetheart and bubble (don't ask where the last came from.. i think I was saying bumble and miss pronounced and now it has stuck).

    Hubby is still hun, lover or babe..

    Terms of endearment are free but priceless and oh so heartfelt.. they make me feel special so I hope they do the people I bestow them on x

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  11. Yep, I'm guilty of giving everyone I meet an endearment (if they're dear). A little honey gets you through, right, hon? x

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  12. Oh I'm a big hun, love, lovely, darl, sweetheart, sweetie kinda gal. Love giving it, love receiving it. I'm so glad you felt the love yesterday, you deserve it. Gorgeous pic too by the way, those old photos are just priceless xo

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  13. I'm with you, i love it. Great post! I used to hate being called "love" and get on my high horse about how patronising it was, but in Yorkshire everyone calls everyone love and I've grown to like it.

    I hope you are feeling better - I didn't have time to comment on your other post. As an outsider looking in, your life looks amazing, but as a stay at home mother - I totally get it! Sometimes the repetition just wears you down. Don't be hard on yourself. You are probably doing an amazing job! xx

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  14. Everyone round these parts uses the phrase Hun, but I kinda avoid it. I'm a sucker for calling people 'my dear' though!!

    I think terms of endearment are lovely - there are plenty being bounded round these parts ATM thanks to Josephine. Hope you're feeling more like your fruity self today xxxx

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  15. "I said pet, I said darl, I said love, I said pet." Ha or was that before your time? I think it all depends on that person, the situation etc But I have about a gazillion of these terms for my two little muffin tops. xx


    You look so much like your young boy honey in that photo!

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  16. I like it but I agree there has to be an age differential in favour of the person being called darling or honey or you have to be pretty much the same age - it is not okay to call someone 10 or more years OLDER darling or sweetie...

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    1. oh and I often use gorgeous for fun especially on unsuspecting older men or friends.... and women too - it's probably a fav

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  17. My dad calls me blossom and I love it, if I ever have a little girl I think that will be her middle name xo

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  18. Your dad is such a gentle soul. He is a honey isn't he! And yes..I, personally, recoil, when the shop assistant calls me "love", "darling" or "beautiful". So insincere.
    BTW Em...no matter how you feel your writing is excellent. Would have never thought of you as a writer; more an artist/ designer. You are full of surprises. x

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  20. Love them all except for "Dear" - sounds way to patronizing for my taste. Glad to hear you are feeling brighter, Sunshine! :)

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  21. Because my brain in so sleep deprived and names are not coming easily to me (even members of my family...)I am getting by on 'honey' and 'gorgeous'and will probably rely on this method for a few more months at least. I hope it doesn't seem insincere- I figure letting people know that you have forgotten their name would be worse...especially when you see them everyday (I live in a very small town.).

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  22. oh yes. im a big fan of the 'sweetheart' - except when said by seedy old men. haha.

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  23. I am such an endearment kind of girl..
    I draw the line at sleazy old men using them though.

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  24. I don't mind terms of endearment - but like you I'm not happy when some teenage salesperson does it. And yeah, I don't know why students have started doing it, but I don't like that either. I'm a bit old-school and expect them to call me Miss!

    I don't care if sleazy old men do it - they could be doing worse!

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em