Friday, April 20, 2012

Fridays - A New Thing.




After feeling a little unhappy with Zeph's pre school we finially made the decision to pull him out. While he often enjoyed himself I was becoming increasingly uncomfortable about the centre and felt that the educators could have been a little more enthusiastic in their interactions with the kids. Standing around chatting while parents drop off and collect their children never instills a sense of security.

Now that he is 3 he will attend a different local pre school and I hope this will be a more positive experience for all of us. But that has meant that for the past several weeks, Zephie has spent Fridays at home with the Lady Baby and I. Just the three of us with no social engagements, no appointments and no pressures.

It's actually (while exhausting) really lovely to have the opportunity to take a little 'backwards' step. Now more than ever I have a real sense of how quickly these years are passing. Things will keep moving forward, never again will I have Zephie at home with me all week every week. So while we have paused together on Fridays we have baked, taken walks, read books, been scooting and swimming and visiting the grampies.

27 comments:

  1. Call me wind because I am blown away by your post!

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  2. Ha! Could this dude getting any cooler? Oh Zeph you are a cutie. Which pre school is he going to be attending now?

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  3. He looks so cool in his little glasses! How cute :)

    Megan @ Storybook Love Affair

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  4. I have a feeling I have been here with you (different time, place and child...but there but been there). After you last post about the issues I am so happy you followed your heart.

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  5. I am a tiger mother when it comes to my children's daycare and pre-school, I have fought so very hard to get them into the very best centres, to me to give the children a love of learning, to be inspired and excited by new ideas and creativity in the early years is so very very important! Very glad to hear that you are being proactive with his early education, it will make a huge difference !

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  6. All the best for your first day zeph xx

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  7. If the place does not feel right for you, then it most likely is no good. And those days together are just too short.

    Enjoy the Fridays!

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  8. Sounds like you made the right move. Good on you lady. Enjoy the time together! Kellie xx

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  9. He is CUTE and oh so very cool.

    You're so right - this stage of life is going to pass us by before we even know it. Sounds so cliche, I know, but so true. I try to remind myself to pause for a moment each day and just savour being with the boys. This is the ONLY stage of life in which I'll have them all with me. The next thing you now, they'll be moving out and getting married. Nooooo.... can NOT think about that.

    Thanks for your email too Em, sorry I haven't had time to reply yet. Will do so soon.

    Take care,
    Ronnie xo

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  10. (And good on you for being bold enough to make the decision to take him out.)

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  11. I am so glad you went with your gut and took him out of the school. People so often neglect, or underestimate, the importance of early childhood education. Children need to be happy in their placement but also stimulated and challenged by their environment. That's how they grow and learn.

    Being a preschool teacher for kids with SEN, and a parent myself, I know how hard it is to want and get what's best for your child at this time of their lives. If a school isn't working for you and more importantly your child, they you need to let them go. Fair play to you for making that decision, a decision that will stand to Zeph.

    You now get to savour those little moments with him, for the time being, as sucky as it sounds, they grow up fast. Enjoy. Hazel xxx

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  12. Awww look at your little tough guy, he's so adorable!
    This same thing happened to us with Angus' first preschool. I was never totally comfortable with the place or the teachers... Angus eventually began to enjoy it, but there was a lot of heartache to get there... and when, after 6 months, we moved him, he wasn't the slightest bit upset by it.
    It was then when I suddenly realised what a great preschool is and he was so much happier, more settled and thriving in his new surrounds.
    He has since started yet another preschool... and thankfully, I think this is the best of the bunch, so it's happy days on a Mon and Tues... for all of us! Good luck with the transition Em, it will be A Ok xoxo

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  13. time is oh-so-fleeting, isn't it? I keep looking at my little rabble and begging for the day that I will have quiet again, until I think, soon it will be quiet around here again. Not sure how that will feel! Hope you have success with the next preschool place.

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  14. Trust you instincts and it'll be the right decision. Sounds like you've been enjoying lovely days with your babies. What bliss!

    Happy weekending you fruit loop, you! xx

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  15. It's funny - those days with both kids seem so exhausting when you're in the middle of it all, but when you look back you'll know you made the right decision and you'll just remember the good bits. x

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  17. Yeah I would've pulled Eleanor out too (though right now I'm a tad distracted just imagining what it would be like if she was in preschool for one day per week! Wow!). Hope you find a better, more perfect one!

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  18. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. I know these situations are tricky ones. But you've done the right thing. Makes you wonder why these carers are in the industry. As a mum of two school aged kids I know just how short this time is. Funny enough, with the years you forget the frustrations and only really remember the good times.

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  19. It's a tough gig, this thing. I am just starting down the childcare road with Louis and its already a bumpy one... Enjoy your days together.

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  20. Those are some awesome sunnies - such style! ;)

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  21. sometimes we all need a little step backwards to reassess. That kid is seriously spunky..just like his mumma.

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  22. How lucky you are to have this special time together. Lucky too to be able to change centres, hopefully he settles in well and it's a happy place for him to grow and explore in.

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  23. I love love love my days as a party of three, which sadly only happens now during the school holidays. And soon Elke will be at kindy 5 days a week and I cry every time I think about it. Good luck with the new pre-school! Good on you Em for trusting your instincts and doing what's best for Zephie. xx

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  24. Such a good decision - you will never regret it.

    And I love the sound of your Fridays! We try to do the same thing! :)

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  25. A tricky decision, but one that it seems you've negotiated well. You can just feel it in your bones when you've made the right choice. I hope the preschool is a better match for all of you.

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em