Friday, January 20, 2012

Slump

I've got super itchy feet at the moment. It's been one whole year since I've worked outside of the home for money and I've gotta say that's pretty much my limit. As all my teaching friends head back into work I find myself kind of wishing that I was joining them (on a part time basis). The thought of getting up, showered, dressed and leaving the house child free thrills me. The idea of writing programs, researching art history and teaching teenagers about naughty, rebellious artists is overwhelmingly appealing.

I love stay at home mumming most days, my kids are excellent and keep me on my toes. But the endless piles of washing, sorting, dirty dishes, cleaning and toy pick-up-ing leaves me rather uninspired. In fact, my brain fogs over at the thought of it.

 Something new is needed here. A fresh start, an inspiring challenge. 

I'm working on it- but for now i'd better just untangle this slinky from the entrance table.



oh, and sweep the floors.


come on bloggie friends- tell me, what do you do when you are going flipping mental from mummy boredom?

39 comments:

  1. I make grand plans, and then do NOTHING about them.

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  2. Have a massive meltdown, get ordered out of the house, then have another massive meltdown because I can't decide what to do, usually end up getting a pedi, driving the girls at the salon nuts agonising over colour choice and refusing to take the mani/pedi deal because i insist on holding onto my magazine. Then leave with happy toes but a sad feeling I could have done something better. Try it, it's ace.

    (or see a movie... if there's anything heavy and depressing enough showing up the road). xxx

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  3. I hear you Emily, I'm feeling exactly the same way. I loooove my children stacks but my mind feels like it's turning to mush. When you work out what's the next step, pass it on. In the mean time I hope we both love life & get inspired by God & what's infront of us. xx

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  4. I love this post, as I am feeling the same way. I eat waaaaaay too much chocolate, pour myself a glass of wine and turn the music up really loud. and get excited about one day conversing with someone older than 2.

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  5. Emily - these are my same unsettled crazy thoughts at the moment too! I have a 19 month old monster, and I am itching for something magical and amazing to cross my path! Hoping to go to tafe part time to do visual arts and maybe that will be my new path. So long story short... I dream and doodle and pick up toys endlessly, waiting and wishing, eating chocolate and reading fabulous blogs like yours for daily inspiration. I would love to hear what you will do!
    Angie :)

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  6. As a Mum the chores just never end do they?. For me, a bit of creative stuff is a good distraction - a sewing or knitting project. I think it's healthy to have interests that are separate from the kids. Can't really comment on the work thing though as I never had a proper career before kids, just a mundane job - nothing I loved doing or missed.

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  7. I make appts to have my eyebrows waxed!! Oh & take lots of photos & blog & organise mum nights out with other mums who need some time out & spend hours on instagram looking at other peoples lives!! xx

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  8. My credit card takes a beating. Mummy boredom can get expensive. Aveagoodweekend Beetles xx

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  9. Oh pick me! Except when all my teachy peeps went back to work this week I didn't feel left out and out of place for the first time ever! I felt FREE! I'm going crazy effing loco with houseboundedness right now, but not so loco that I want to go back to teaching. I day dream about going back to uni to do an arts degree, not because I want another degree but because I want an excuse to do nothing but art for 3 years. Maybe I can stretch it to 6 if I do it part time….

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  10. I'm so with you on some of this. I love teaching teenagers about bad ass surrealists and the like. Love getting into their dark and twitchy little minds but the idea of organising my lot to get to their various destinations and still turn up myself looking half decent and, God forbid, 'professional' is more daunting than the scariest emo, 15 year old, rat toting, metal perforated, sweet pea. It takes me till ten to get out of my leisure wear (jamies) of late. This year my hand has been forced as the big boys need school fees. I need to get paid by Peter to pay Paul. After three years of luxuriating at home with one easy peasy baby, the time has come. Lovely to find your blog! Thanks for visiting mine!

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  11. I bake a cake, eat the cake, wish I hadn't baked and eaten the cake, and wash it down with a glass of wine ( only evenings, I'm no lush....well only a bit ).....x

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  12. You know that saying the grass is always greener?.... I wanted more brain strain now I have too much.... You have so many talents, just go play with one of them that should tickle your fancy :)

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  13. As a teacher who in planning, prepping and somewhat dreading the new year, this is a good reminder for me of how itchy my feet were last year. But I also feel overwhelmed not being at home and loving my girl to death full time. Indeed the grass is always greener! Hope your newest dreams come to fruition. X Ashley

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  14. I get itchy feet from time to time...for what I have no idea as I have never really worked and certainly not in a career. Some days all the chores etc just get a little too much and I find the best distraction for me is getting out of the house for a while. The other great distraction is anything crafty :)

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  15. When it's all getting a bit much I like to either get out of the house altogether or blog or make arrangements to catch up with friends, some who are Mama's, some who are not. I think every job has it's downside, it's just that being a Mama is far more intense, because there isn't any let up. For the first time in 16 years I am officially unemployed right now. When I stop and think about the enormity of that, it does kinda scare me. But I do also accept that this is exactly where I always wanted to be and the time will be so fleeting, I just want to enjoy it, if I can. Good luck with new endeavours Em :o) xo

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  16. I'm a teacher and I often think how nice it'd be to stay home... Nice to know the grass isn't always greener on the other side ;) I don't have kiddos either though, so that might make a difference.
    Do you have a hobby you can do at home when the kids are around?

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  17. Positive spin, it' really great that you are in a place where you dont have to go to work, all is happy in your life, kids are great, healthy la,la,laL. Pat on the back for you, you are a great mum, wife etc, But when you are creative person its hard to go with the flow, you do need a challange. This always happens to me this time of year, I feel like im free falling. One minute and spinning the next. ItS time to get the paper and pen out an start making lists, of things you would like try try,places to go, just lists on and on until one day something will just jump off that paper, but you gotta be quick and run with it. Good luck Emily

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  18. All those jobs will still be there even with working a paid job! I set myself a goal that if I do the housework, then I can create.... haha, saying that, I'm sitting reading blogs and my house is a bomb and all I did yesterday was create! Needless to say what I am doing this morning! xx

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  19. Completely know how you feel! First time round I was very ready to return to work. This time round, thanks to an easy baby and second-time wisdom, I've found myself with more time on my hands. So I started blogging! And have set myself a 2012 challenge to get back in to writing books again. Loving it so far and it's definitely helping me stay sane.

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  20. I loved working before having Cohen, but I love being a stay at home Mum too. I work from home (as a jeweller) too, which helps me find a nice balance. But if I'm feeling a bit stifled I find a girls day or night out doing something cultural is usually the answer for me. A trip to the art gallery, an evening listening to poets reading at Riverbend books, followed by a cafe chat or even just book shopping with my sister.

    Perhaps a course would get your brain bubbling again? Learning a language? A new skill? Pottery? Glass blowing? Printmaking? Artists books? Resin jewellery making? A book club? Or joining in some life drawing classes once a week?

    :)

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  21. I go online and blog or read blogs - doing both has been my saviour these past 12 months. After having a huge meltdown about this time last year and realising I had to find something for me rather than solely focusing on my hubby and little man, discovering blogs and starting my own gave me another focus, an interest all of my own. Now with baby no.2 not far away I fear I will lose time for both and get into that slump again.

    I also make plans - some that happen, some that don't. Plan a trip, plan a dinner for friends, organise something as simple as a playdate, something to put on the calendar and look forward to. I find as long as I have something to look forward to I can get through even the most boring of days.

    Good luck with your potential inspiring challenge Emily :) x

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  22. I work 2 days a week and must say it keeps me sane and I enjoy my children more when I have missed them a little. The downside is cramming all the housework into less days and still making time to be creative because my job while i love it, is completely not at all creative. I think you need to do some creating, be it art, writing, sewing- a project of some sort and set some time aside every day. Actually can highly recommend a sewing gang- mine is fabulous and very inspiring and a good excuse to gossip and eat too much chocolate. melx

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  23. I write long, lists of cool stuff to do, craft, see etc, Then I prioritise them according to do-ability/affordability/timability(?)and then I go all out at the one on top of the list. But really I think its the list writing that helps, the feeling of possibilities. Othertimes, if I'm getting REALLY over the mothering I just throw myself into being better at mothering somehow, then the challenging feeling of that seems to do the trick x

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  24. You sweep!? Wow you're doing better than me...

    Chin up, Em. It's natural to feel that pull to the world outside your home when your babies start to grow up. I definitely felt ready to start working (a little bit!) after Jude was one and a half. I didn't leap in, i just walked. Baby steps.

    x

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  25. I drink till the feeling disappears.... haha no serious!!! Welcome to my world. I only had to quit my job when bub was 15months old, and because I didn't actually leave when most new mums do I miss it more than most I think. Missing out on the adult company was and is the worst and I must admit after attending my third linen party (all attended by mums with babies) I decided to hell with this and applied to go back to work one day a week. Bub is now 20months old, attending a lovely day are centre, the older two are at school and I am not drinking any more WINK WINK!!!

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  26. I don't know much about mummy boredom these days--although, about four or five months ago, I did.... that is a distant memory to me, now.... I can't remember the last time I enjoyed a cup of tea and pored over my favorite blogs(ahem, the Beetle Shack and more).... and I am sorely missing writing my own... as I am very much invested in my position working outside of my home... I adore it-but also miss the mind numbing sock matching and creative projects I would work on with my little guy, Hayes. So, I wish I had a tidbit to share to help--but all I have is a sincere thank you for your comment left on my long ago post about Hayes's 3rd Birthday. Thank you, it means a lot. I hope to get back in the groove of expelling my thoughts, memories and goings ons through the almost dead end avenue of my blog. Dramatic? Ya. Maybe a little.
    Best wishes to you!! xoxo Paula

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  27. :) My mom would put us all down for a nap whenever she started getting discontented. It seemed to work well.

    I'm your latest follower! Had some fun just now reading your story.

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  28. I loved this post. It is so true. These winter months can be so isolating for those of us who stay home with our kiddies. Usually I bake TONS of new kinds of breads and cookies. And we make sure to go outside every day, no matter what the weather. Either way, good luck!

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  29. Yup I am the same...

    I get through the week with something fun to go to each day... Like playgroup, mums group, swimming lessons... I am so lucky each day we have such a great group of like minded mums it is always enjoyable.

    I also do crafty projects at home which inspire and challenge me.

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  30. I wait till my Teacher husband comes home from School..usually around 4/4.30pm, or if he has a free lesson last-thing in the day, he'll come home earlier..so the moment he comes home I get him to mind my two boys (21 months, 5 months) and I go and scout all the op-shops in my town (Napier, NZ) for goodies. It gives me a kick when I purchase something cool (not so good for the purse strings:). Hubby is super supportive of me 'getting out'!
    PS love your honest posts!

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  31. Hi, I've come over from Homely One. I'm just spending my last days as a mum of one, and already contemplating what to do in a few months after the second little one is settled in this world. For now, my blog is my time out - I only wish I had endless energy to complete loads of projects to blog about!

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  32. I didn't realise you were a fellow teacher :) For me, feeling like all my mind did was think about baby related things, was the exact reason I started blogging. I enjoy reading others posts and feeling inspired and being able to connect to so many other stay at home Mums out there.

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  33. I think a little part time or even casual teaching might be just what you need! x

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  34. I know the feeling completely!! That is why I am forever creating things and have vowed to open my etsy store!

    Bek xx

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  35. Leave the house and get the sun on my back somewhere with the kidlets whirling off in the distance. Everything feels better in the sun.

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  36. I take out my camera and take photos... sound familiar? xo

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  37. Yep, I'm with you Em! So I enrolled at uni to start working towards my Masters in Education. Start in a week and am feeling rather nervous about it and wondering what on earth I've got myself in for. How on earth will I have time to do everything I do now plus find time to study. Argh!

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  38. I have had itchy feet lately. I even wrote out a 'real job' application for something in editorial I would quiet like. then rose threw up and I deleted my application.

    I take photos, go to uni, write blog posts, comment on your blog... ;)

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  39. bloody locked out of wordpress again... I did write... (by the way, its Rach @ A Squiggly Blog

    http://www.squigglrainbow.wordpress.com

    something like..

    My escape was creating my little business, which is now a serious second income... art and creating were the thing that started it off - at the moment its the little projects that keep me going... but Squiggly Rainbow was definitely my sanity saver! xx

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em