Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Creatively Searching For Chaos





I'm not sure if I've told you this but I seem to swing between being a valuable, functioning member of society to being completely and utterly crazy (but lets go out on a limb and use the term 'spirited'). It would appear that this has been a trait I have carried with me throughout my life.

 As I worked my way through Raising Your Spirited Child I was confronted with the reality that my darling boy is indeed me. My mum's comment back here ( it's about half way down in the comments section- Anonymous commenter at 11:42 am. She calls me Emily, thats how I know she's serious) rings true. You know, i drove her bonkers- I'm pretty sure in was intentional at times too. I recall thinking- 'wow, mum's about to loose it, I wonder what will happen if I push just a little more?' She was such a good mumma (and still is) to my brother and I. Despite all of our many and varied challenges I totally remember feeling nurtured, encouraged, and valued by her- she would set me up in the kitchen and let me cook whatever I wanted... literally ANYTHING. Smiling with delight ( i can see it now) when I would present flat, burnt muffins filled with flour, edicole dye, Vegemite, sprinkles and any other goodies I could find in the pantry. She would even taste them. That's love I tell you. I never felt like I was annoying her, or making too much of a mess, or talking too much, I just felt loved.

These days i'm on the other side of that mother child relationship and one thing still baffles me - mum, how the bloody hell did you do it?

The Young Man spends his days creatively searching for chaos. He likes to cook, just like I did. Paint, just like I did and talk. non. bloody. stop. Just like I did.

 I can only hope that as a man he will remember being loved too.

18 comments:

  1. Your mother is so beautiful :)

    Just.like.you :)

    xx

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  2. He will have a beautiful 'spirit' just like his Mumma.

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  3. He will be just perfect and you will be the one that makes him so x

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  4. A little in sync? I just posted about a similar thing!! Ah little Sprites. Three cheers for patient and understanding mothers. xxx

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  5. I really enjoyed reading this. My eldest falls into the spirited category (and I've never read the book -he's 9, is it too late?) and guess what, so does his mum. I remember the whining, door slamming and tantrums that I put my parents through. I see strong similarities with my son. Though with two parents that are on the "spirited" side, it was pretty inevitable. But though our spirited kids are hard work, it makes us love them all the more.

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  6. Oh he will darling girl. You're a beautiful Mama, just like your Mama. Much like your comments here, I always wonder how my Mama did it. I only have memories of her being patient and kind and supportive. But I'm sure she had times just like we have now with our little treasures. I'll also add (as my Mama often says to me), we live in a different time now, not that it's an excuse really, but the stresses in this day and age are a far cry from the lifestyle our parents had when raising us xo

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  7. Your mum sounds lovely! I often wonder how my mum did it too :)

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  8. Ahh, yes I know what you mean! My son, Tristan, is almost eight and I spent the first 4 to 5 years of his life baffled and clinging most of the time to my sanity. He has his dad's nervy dynamic nature and has inherited a huge creative, butterfly ENTHUSIASM from me! Let me reasure you now he is 99% super duper kiddo! A fab guitarist, artist, hard working at school, prolific writer, physically dynamic but most importantly of all a REALLY kind and respectful boy. I made mistakes, lost it, shouted and LOVED him too and he has come out real good so far ;-)

    Does that help?

    Listen dear lady, if and when you have a moment could you pop over and see my latest post? I would like to make a special gift of the same ilk to that lady's baby living down the road from you. I know it's the height of summer down your way but that lady's baby was born midwinter. Just let me know if she would like it? I kinda want it to be a surprise... although she may be reading your post today. Whoops!!!!

    Stephanie

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  9. ps Did any of that last paragraph make sense? ;-)

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  10. Look at your gorgeous Mumma - I think I would like a cuddle from her myself!

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  11. My youngest loves to "cook". She declares she's just making a recipe. It usually involves cumquats from the neighbours tree, sugar, cocoa, flour and flowers, whatever is to hand. I have eaten of them and we have "saved some to share with daddy later" and extoled their virtues the next day. My youngest is nearly 5 and we recently discussed the difference between cooking and potions. We have declared cooking as following some commonly accepted principles and the potions as a devil may care, whatever goes mixture.

    There are days when i find the mess challenging, the need to bounce to something else when there is a disaster to clean up, but I TRY to keep good humour about it, I do eat (some are surprisingly okay) and remember that this is her creativity and expression at its best.

    It's not always easy, but it is always fun... for her.

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  12. He will definitely remember the love. Because you do. Kellie xx

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  13. Are you crazier than you think you are? Of course he'll remember being loved. Adored even.

    I'm raising myself as well x 3. It's what happens in this life. We get what's coming to us, it seems!! x

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Thanks so much for your words of encouragement, advice and solidarity.

xo em